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5 Proven Ways Dating Your Spouse Can Keep Your Marriage Fresh and Alive

Things were much simpler before you got married. The cares of the day didn’t weigh down your relationship. You made time to focus on one another. You were each other’s top priority. Now, even though you are married, carry these 5 dating qualities over into your marriage and watch your marriage remain fresh and alive.

When you were dating, you noticed everything good about your mate.

Flaws took a back seat and you focused on the good qualities.  Hang on to this trait. We all have flaws. However, instead of magnifying the flaws, magnify the good qualities that drew you to your mate in the first place.

When you were dating, you kept up appearances for one another.

When you were dating you prepared to see one another. A fresh shower, perfume and cologne. You made sure your outfit was straight. There is no way you would let your Boo see you halfway put together.

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Go back to that; get rid of the old, ratty sweatpants unless you are working in the yard. Put effort into what you look like for your mate and for you.

When you were dating, just the sight of your mate made your heart skip a beat.

Remember that excitement you felt when you heard his voice. Remember the smile that came to your face when you saw her entering the room. Go back to that place in time. Let your heart skip a beat.

When you were dating, the cares of life didn’t overshadow your love.

When you were dating, you had bills and responsibility. Yet, they did not overshadow your love. They were kept in perspective. Examine your life together. If you need to go back and put things in the proper perspective, do it. Keep you and your mate at the top of the list.

When you were dating you believed you could conquer the world together.

You let nothing and no one come between you and your mate. Inseparable, that’s what you were. Friends, work, and volunteer opportunities all took a back seat to being with your sweetie. Carry that over into your marriage.

Marriage doesn’t need to come with a weight and a noose around your neck. Recall the 5 light-hearted aspects of dating here. Bring them back to life within your marriage.

Get excited about being with your honey.  It starts with your mindset; date your mate first mentally – meditate on the things you loved about dating your spouse. Make them a part of your everyday thought life. Then watch them start showing up in your everyday living.

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