“Just because she CAN do it all doesn’t mean she should have to!” I made this into one of my infamous memes one day and it set the ladies on social media on fire. I got a flurry of…..”amen!”, “yaaassss!”, and “preach!” comments. Well, I got to thinking about this narrative that gets perpetuated so much that endorses the fact that men aren’t involved in their households or are “absent” and I realized that although there are some examples of it, I believe the disconnect comes in the fact that sometimes men aren’t involved in the way that women think we should be involved.
To be honest, I think some women wouldn’t know how to survive without being in a state of stress. Nothing seems to frustrate a woman more than if she is stressed, yet her man seems calm. I think a good example of this is with something like dirty dishes. Man listen, a woman will freak out about 3 dirty dishes in the sink and a man can walk past those 3 dishes and think, “Eh not enough in the sink yet to need my attention.” She wants the kitchen spotless before going to bed, while he might be like “I’ll get to ‘em in the morning.”
So what happens!? She gets stressed and decides to do them herself and that small thing turns into “you don’t ever do anything to help me, and you expect me to do it all.” Oh and don’t let him be looking at TV and forget to fold the clothes when once they are finished drying…then all hell might break loose! It’s been 10 minutes since the dryer buzzed and that turned into an hour long vent session with your bestie about how lazy your husbands is.
Here are some other things women just might do differently than men and where a middle ground is needed:
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