6. She is a responsible adult and not a teenaged babysitter.
Heather: I would much rather my daughter’s stepmother babysit than a neighbor or a teenager.
Deesha: And if she has kids of her own, she has parenting experience under her belt. Some stepmoms play a support role while others may be your child’s primary caregiver during much of your ex’s parenting time, especially if the child is very young, if the stepmom is a stay-at-home mom, or if your ex’s job requires travel or long hours.
7. She is organized and efficient.
Deesha: Most married moms and stepmoms I know are the COOs of their households. A stepmom may keep chaos at bay and help your ex avoid conflicts in the parenting time schedule. Again, it’s not that men aren’t capable or shouldn’t be expected to manage their own co-parenting situation, but the reality is that some stepmoms become the default keeper of the family calendar.
BMWK: Can you think of additional reasons why stepmoms are great? If you know an awesome stepmom, give her a shout out in the comments below.
What a breath of fresh air! I want to plaster this article all over the place to let people know that there is a mature manner of handling blended families. THANK YOU!!!!!
I really loved this article. Coparenting really does require the stepparents to be intimately involved. I’m doing a study on single moms’ experiences with coparenting. Email me at [email protected] if interested.
I want to give a shout out to my daughters stepdad Charles Branyley. He has been there for my daughter when I couldn’t be. I am so grateful that she has him in her life! Although, i wish it were me I am still glad that she has someone to look up to and protect her.
This is my life. So much so I have written a book about it and we have a stepfamily ministry that helps other stepfamilies. http://www.stepwithlove.org
By the way, I adore my children’s stepmom. I called her my extra wife. Every divorced woman with children deserves to have someone in their children’s life who enhances what could be a horrible situation. Check out my book. “One Plus One Equals Ten: A First Lady’s Survival Guide for Stepmoms”. Available on amazon.
Janice R Love
How then do I handle the situation of a child born out of infidelity. I want to be a part of her life and other mom though its painful because my husband is her dad the other woman and family always calls him even in the middle of the night. I just want to be supportive and show that I love him despite everything else.
This article gives me hope. I am a step mom and love my step children and hope with time their mother will realize that I only have their best interest at heart.
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