Most of the time, couples counseling is the last thing on a couple’s minds when they are on the verge of a break-up or when one partner is just “done” with the relationship. Some couples will just decide to end it, without even looking at other possible options to save the marriage or relationship. You do have an option, let Dr. Tiffany Sanders, PhD, tell you why you must attend couples counseling.
In This Article:
- Couples Counseling Might Be Your Saving Grace
- Enhance Communication
- Increase Intimacy
- Work Through Infidelity
- Let Go of the Past
- When You Think You Might Be Happier with Someone Else
- Disagreements in Raising Children
- Money Management
How Can Couples Counseling Save Your Relationship?
Couple Counseling Might Be Your Saving Grace
Many hesitate to undergo the marriage counseling process because they don’t want to be told what to do in their relationship. Also, they believe they can fix the problems on their own. However, relationships are hard work and a licensed counselor can help you learn how black family counseling can weather a storm threatening your marriage.
1. Enhance Communication
Unreliable strategies such as the “silent treatment,” shouting, or using disrespectful words can damage a relationship. In marriage counseling, you can discover effective, healthy communication strategies to ensure that both of your wants, needs, and frustrations are heard in a respectful manner, while still learning how to create a relationship that encourages sharing, talking, and connecting.
2. Increase Intimacy
Ignoring your partner’s pleas for intimacy and/or sex can lead to a lack of connectedness, foster feelings of insecurity and rejections, and increase the likelihood of infidelity. Couples counseling cannot only help you discover your partner’s language of love, but it can also provide you with tips and strategies to keep the spark in the relationship.
3. Work Through Infidelity
Relationships can recover and be saved when rocked by infidelity. In counseling, married people can learn what factors contributed to infidelity, how to safeguard your relationship from future occurrences of infidelity, and learn ways to forgive, trust, and be trusted.
4. Let Go of the Past
Baggage from past issues of abandonment, trust, or lack of follow-through can fracture a relationship. Also, your partner may be unaware you are still stewing over those issues from the past. In couples counseling, learn to become unstuck, find ways to move on, forgive, and focus on your happiness and the future.
5. When You Think You Might Be Happier with Someone Else
If you have been with your partner for many years, things can become boring. Attention from a past lover or coworker has you wondering if you could be happier with someone else.
However, the grass is not always greener on the other side. By seeing a marriage counselor and attending sessions, you can learn how to reconnect with your partner and regain the excitement to create a lasting relationship.
6. Disagreements in Raising Children
The way you parent, discipline, and nurture your children anger or frustrate your partner. Counseling can help you agree on effective strategies to raise your children and reduce inconsistencies in parenting, which can breed children who misbehave.
7. Money Management
He loves new gadgets and electronics, recklessly spends money, and pays the bills late. On the other hand, you are frugal, saving money for a rainy day, purchase of a home and retirement. Working with a counselor can get at the root of the financial problem or reckless spending. It can also outline financial goals for the family to save and to enjoy the pleasures of life.
Dr. Tiffany D. Sanders, Ph.D., is a relationship expert, licensed psychologist, owner of Sanders & Associates, a group counseling practice based in Naperville, IL, and author of the book My Purpose is For Real: 7 Simple Steps to Get Back on Track to Achieve Your Dreams.
Find out more about couples counseling by checking out this video from The Doctors:
May this article by Dr. Tiffany Sanders, PhD help you understand what to expect from marriage counseling. Hard work and team effort between you and your spouse are the main ingredients of a healthy and happy marriage. Just communicate properly with each other and don’t be afraid to seek help from a licensed marriage counselor for the betterment of your relationship.
Have you ever been to couples counseling? What was your experience? Tell us in the comments section below!
Editor’s Note: This article was originally published on February 21, 2012, and has been updated for quality and relevancy.