It seems like today, more than ever, the value of marriage has declined.
Young adults and some singles seem not to desire it as much as I remember we did in the past. It also seems so easy to disregard and disrespect.
The side chick is on the rise and some folks seem good with that. In some circles, it’s like a badge of honor. Infidelity is almost normal in a few marriages. Overall, the perception of marriage appears to be more unfavorable than it’s ever been, in my opinion.
(Side Note: If there was infidelity in your marriage, read: From Hating to Healing; 4 Phases That Happen After an Affair and How to Get Through Them)
Naturally, for me, a relationship expert, the lukewarm acceptance of marriage doesn’t sit too well.
I get excited about love and marriage. Of course, it requires effort and enthusiasm, but the benefits it brings to our families and communities is immeasurable. Let’s invest in it again by doing the following:
Speak highly of your spouse and marriage
Of course, some days are challenging. But what about that time you laughed together until you were in tears? Usually, the good times outweigh the bad.
Encourage other couples who may be suffering
It takes a village. We can no longer be content with our own happiness when others are suffering.
Promote ideas and resources that support healthy marriages
Have you spread the word about BMWK? Have you loaned out the books that helped in your marriage to a friend who needs them? Are you quick to recommend coaching or counseling to a couple who seem stuck?
Dismiss stories that constantly speak negatively about marriage
For every negative example, there’s also a positive one.
Celebrate marriage with your words
Congratulate those who choose marriage with positive words and affirmations. Remind them of what’s required, but also highlight the many benefits that come from marriage.
Celebrate marriage with your actions
Show up to bridal showers and weddings with positive energy. Our excitement and passion for marriage should be evident in our body language.
Allow your marriage to be the example
I do believe, for the most part, people want to be hopeful about marriage. It makes it difficult when they don’t see many positive images. Let yours be that image. Invest in it. Nurture it and put your everything into your own marriage. Not only will it feel amazing to you and your spouse, it will also provide a sense of hope to those who don’t quite know how to feel about marriage.
Together, yes, I’m going there, we can make marriage great again. Will you join me?
BMWK, what suggestions would you add to the promotion of marriage?