No one likes conflict. No one. Some people go out of their way to avoid it as much as possible. If you're a conflict avoider by nature, it makes it difficult to get your needs met no matter where you are. When you fail to communicate what's bothering you, your relationships, whether at work or at home, definitely suffer. But, if this behavior takes root in your marriage, it … [Read more...]
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6 Behaviors to Avoid When Dealing With Conflict in Your Marriage
Have you wondered, in the heat of a battle, what you were really fighting about? When it comes to conflict in your marriage, it’s not usually the surface issue you're discussing. The inner work begins the moment you are able to go beneath the surface and uncover what it is that really bothers you about what’s happening. 6 Behaviors to Avoid When Dealing With Conflict in Your … [Read more...]
Marriage Prayers: Here’s How to Use Prayer to Resolve Conflict With Your Spouse
Conflict, unfortunately, doesn’t always end with peaceful solutions. When relationship conflicts can’t be resolved, you’ll find damaged egos, hurt feelings, hateful words, and, sometimes, the end of a marriage. Marriage prayers might not be a trending topic, but when your marriage is in trouble, it doesn't have to be. Marriage Prayers: Here's How to Use Prayer to Resolve … [Read more...]
3 Effective Ways to Defuse Conflict and Achieve Marital Peace
One of the most effective ways couples can achieve marital peace is learning the skill of resolving marriage conflict. As you can imagine, two imperfect people will definitely generate disagreement, frustration and, yes, conflict in a relationship. When you marry, you bring your flaws, a little of the past, and a moderate amount of baggage. In that baggage is the hurt others … [Read more...]
3 Conflict Resolution Tips to Not Undo the “I do”
When it comes to dealing with conflict in marriage, the question is not if you will have conflict but when you will have conflict. After the "I do," conflict is a necessary part of even healthy marriages because no two people will ever agree on everything. However, many couples begin to "undo" the "I do" because they misinterpret Proverbs 20:3 and make the colossal mistake of … [Read more...]
Here’s the One Thing You Must Do in 2018 to Nip Relationship Conflict in the Bud
As you can imagine, two imperfect people will definitely generate disagreement, frustration and, yes, conflict in a relationship. When you marry, you bring your flaws, a little of the past, and a moderate amount of baggage. In that baggage is the hurt others have caused, your unwillingness to forgive, and the triggers that remind you of just how hard-nosed you have to … [Read more...]
10 Godly Ways (Plus Scriptures) to Resolve Conflict with Your Spouse
The truth is, we will have conflict in marriage. It’s normal. Conflict is a disagreement caused by varying opinions. No two people have the same opinion all the time, even if you are husband and wife. However, conflict can be healthy when you decide to stand together and wage war on the problem, not on each other. Here are 10 Godly ways to resolve conflict starting … [Read more...]
3 Easy & Effective Tips to Reduce Conflict in Your Marriage
Last year, my husband and I went on a marriage cruise (kid-free). Not only was it the first time we'd ever been on a cruise but it was the first time we were away from home for so long to focus solely on our marriage. And, as the new BMWK Marriage Cruise is underway, I wanted to reflect on one of the most powerful sessions we experienced during the cruise. One of the biggest … [Read more...]
Straight Outta Conflict: My Struggle With NWA’s Celebrated Legacy Of Disrespecting Black Women
By: Marques Crump As everybody is waxing nostalgic and heavily praising the movie Straight Outta Compton, I must admit that rehashing the legacy of NWA has produced conflict in my spirit. I’m still debating if I want to see the movie… Back in ’88 when I heard Eazy-E and NWA’s respective albums, my mind was blown! Growing up in hip hop’s glory days where the East Coast … [Read more...]
12 Signs Your Marriage Will Survive Through Conflict
Remember your very first big disagreement as a couple? You probably thought, "Okay, I haven't seen this side of him/her". Or, "Is this what I have to look forward to"? Both of which would be valid concerns. The reality is, in love, you're going to get frustrated. Things won't always go your way and sometimes you and your mate will not see eye to eye. It's okay. You might … [Read more...]
4 Necessary Relationship Skills that Help Work Past Conflict
Much like life itself, marriage is an emotional roller coaster. Happily Ever After is not an everyday concept. Happily Ever After comes after both the commitment and the work put in. The rough days are guaranteed on this road. I remember overhearing a friend of mine in an argument with his fiancé at the time. Her sobs poured through the phone through her jumbled words, but I … [Read more...]
4 Quick Steps to More Peace and Less Conflict in Your Relationship
by Esther Boykin, What’s the secret to a lasting love affair? Great communication of course! So often couples struggle with how to really talk with each other and one of the toughest parts of communication is dealing with conflict. Most of us hope to avoid these emotionally charged situations or even convince ourselves that “happy couples” don’t fight; but the truth is that … [Read more...]
Conflict Resolution; 3 Reasons Why She May Be Nagging You
What is that crazy woman's problem? She just wants to nag nag nag... while all you hear is womp womp womp. I mean seriously, does she really think all of this talking is getting her anywhere? Ain't nobody got time for that. She needs to give you your peace and let you be. The world does not revolve around her but she always wants talk at all the wrong times (while you're trying … [Read more...]
7 Realistic Ways to Manage Conflict before Things Get too Heated
Have you ever just wanted to react to your partner without thinking about it first and with no regard to what the results might be; even if you knew better? You’re not alone. When someone pisses us off, it’s normal for our instincts to kick in and cause us to become defensive and argumentative. But having effective conflict management tools under our belts equips us for the … [Read more...]
Have You Been Water or Gasoline in Your Marriage Conflicts?
Water vs. Gasoline is a term frequently used in my work. When asked what happens when you put gasoline on a fire, eyes usually get wide and the response is kind of like duh, the fire greatly increases. The follow up question to that one is what happens when you put water on a fire, and again the response comes with a common sense glare as everyone usually says in unison, "the … [Read more...]