I love my husband dearly, but sometimes I need some space. And sometimes he does too.
One of the biggest misconceptions about marriage is that you have to always be under each other. Imagine the energy and paranoia that comes from trying to keep your spouse on a short leash.
Where is she/he?
Where have you been?
Why did you leave me?
How come you don’t want me to go with you?
We should always be together.
This is not what God meant when He said “two shall become one.” A husband and a wife can be one in their goals, in their intimate moments, in their beliefs about parenting, and other practical marriage matters, but they don’t have to live like conjoined twins.
When you are secure in your marriage, you can give your spouse space.
There’s no reason to trip when your husband wants to go to a sports bar to watch the game and eat wings with the guys.
It’s really not that serious for your wife to get dressed up and have a night out with the girls.
It’s okay and even healthy to spend some time in separate rooms (not bedrooms). As I am writing this post, my hubby is watching the basketball playoffs in his TV room and I am writing in my office. After spending more than 10 hours together today we need some time to ourselves.
Space is good when the marriage is good. Actually, it can make the marriage better. Instead of being short tempered or loose lipped, you can take time to collect your thoughts and release the cares of the day in ways that are beneficial to you and to your family. The key is to be secure in your relationship and to trust that when you are not with your spouse you are still one.
BMWK, do you have a problem with giving your spouse space?