R&B crooner Anthony Hamilton sat down with Rolling Out magazine to give his thoughts on black love and what black couples can do to keep the love alive. The married father of 5 (and one on the way), who recently released his latest album, Back to Love, believes there are many misconceptions of black love.
On The Biggest Misconception About Black Love
The biggest misconception about black love is that we don’t get along or we don’t evolve as a couple. She’s making too much money, or he’s making more, we have that “I’m not good enough,” syndrome, but there are a lot of couples out there doing well together. Doctors and lawyers in one family, or nurses and construction workers in one family, and are really doing well.It’s a misconception that black love doesn’t last. But we have couples that are 60 or 65-year-old, married couples. You have to find your strength, and your love within the Lord and you can have that too.
What is the one thing that you wish black women understood about black men?
I wish they would understood that we love the subtle, soft-spoken woman a lot more than the aggressive attitude. Because once you adopt that attitude you tend to use it and you use it not for good anymore, it becomes an unbalance. We love the soft side of a sister. We love the soft side of a woman, the submissive side. A man has to make you comfortable enough to show that side so you don’t have to be so defensive; so it’s a two way street.
On how black men can step up to the plate when it comes to relationships
They can step up to the plate by making bigger commitments, being ready, knowing what they want first of all, because in a real relationship you’re trying to go to a place and make this a real commitment, and then make the step. But if it’s not what you want, be honest.
Read more excerpts here and check out Rolling Out next week for the full interview.