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Are You Keeping Your Bedroom Spicy or Lukewarm?

by Sheree Adams

When was the last time your husband saw your alter ego? Come on…you know we all have one. I know she has a name too. Well…where is she??? The one that hooked and reeled him in years ago? The one that would call or text in the middle of the day to say, “I want you” or “I can still smell you in the pillowcase”? Times up!   If you have to think about it longer than 5 seconds, its been too long.

I went to a bachelorette party recently and one of the activities was exchanging “dirty little bedroom secrets” so the bride-to-be could take note for the consummation of their upcoming marriage. I will be the first to admit, that I had lots to share. As a mater of fact, all of us married women did. But how many of us had used or even tried any of these   seductive ‘moves’ on our husbands in the recent past? I didn’t take a survey, but from general small talk about being taxis for the kids, sports/activities, busy family life, our careers etc. I could safely say that the vast majority of us were lacking the energy it takes to even be these vixens in the bedroom on a regular basis that we were so vividly describing.

My feelings are like this: Life sometimes gets in the way, but you have to make certain that just like you plan Girls’ Night Out, you can certainly plan what I like to call a “take down” A.K.A. a session of female-dominant seduction. Now, correct me if I’m wrong, but   doesn’t your man really like it when YOU seduce him? They find it sexy when you’re a perfect lady (during the day) and “scotch bonnet pepper” in the sheets.

A friend of mine shared one of her tried, true and exciting ways to start your “take down” and that’s actually during the day…while he’s at work and can’t get to you. Send 4-5 texts throughout the day, like this: “I can’t wait to see you tonight…” “When I see you tonight, I’m gonna…” “I’m not wearing any….” You get the picture. Some people refer to it as “sexting” (Kinda has a ring to it.) So, by the time your man pulls into the driveway *ahem* having received all of those text messages throughout the day, he’ll be like a young pimple-faced teenager, especially when he sees you in that lingerie he hasn’t seen you in since the honeymoon! 🙂

Try it and be sure to shoot me a signal or a sign that you successfully executed a “take down”. And guys, tell your wives or wifeys to join me here, you’ll be a happier man because of it.

Sheree is a Christian, wife, WAHM of three, nurse, blogger and speaker, who is forever drawn to all things health-related. You can find her blogging about marriage, family, health tips and more as Smart & Sassy Mom. Sheree is committed to helping blended families and keeping marriages strong, healthy, fun and SPICY! Learn more about Sheree on her Website and via Twitter.

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