You just had a really nice date, and he tells you he's interested in seeing you again. But when you ask him what he's looking for in a relationship he says, "I don't know what I want." What does he mean? Or, you're 3 months into dating a handsome, successful brotha who has been kind and consistent with you, but he hasn't brought up the commitment talk yet. When you ask him … [Read more...]
Ghosted? 3 Possible Reasons He Disappeared After a Great Date
You finally met a good one from that dating app you feel like you've been chained to for the last 3 months, and he asked you for a meet and greet. You met up for appetizers and the conversation was mentally stimulating. He seemed to be impressed by you too, which is refreshing considering the fact that men tend to be intimidated by your success. Plus, he was easy on the eyes! … [Read more...]
Finally Boo’d Up: Are You Scared of Messing It Up?
You're finally boo'd up and you're singing that new Ella Mai song: "Feelings, so deep in my feelings No, this ain't really like me Can't control my anxiety Feeling, like I'm touching the ceiling When I'm with you I can't breathe Boy, you do something to me." This man could be The One! He takes your breath away with his kindness, thoughtfulness and sincerity. … [Read more...]
Desperate or Determined? 3 Little Known Reasons Why You’re Thirsty For Love
From the outside looking in, your life looks like an Instagram feed. Your passport has stamps from exotic places like Dubai and The Maldives. Your closet is stacked with designer labels from Gucci to Louis Vuitton. And you have the admiration (and envy) of your family and friends. But if they were able to read your mind, they'd discover your dirty little secret: You are … [Read more...]
Third Date Syndrome: Was It Your Fault He Disappeared?
Have you heard of Third Date Syndrome? It's the confusing and frustrating dating pattern of never getting past the third date with the man you really like. The scenario looks like this: Date #1: After a bit of nervous laughter & awkward silences, the conversation begins to flow. You sit so close to each other that his Versace Black Crystal cologne lingers on your … [Read more...]
Déjà Vu Dating: How to Break the Cycle of Choosing the Wrong Man
Are you a victim of déjà vu dating?. If your group chats with your best girlfriends are filled with complaints like--"Why does it always end up the same way? We're in love, but he won't commit. I shut down, then we're in a limbo state. Before I know it, he's on Facebook posting pictures with his new boo, and telling the world he's going to get married. What's wrong with … [Read more...]
‘Nice for What?’ How to Handle a Return Ghoster
He ghosted you after 6 months of dating. Now he's popping back into your life like nothing happened. No apology. No explanation. What should you do? Ghosters leave you with unanswered questions: Was it something I said? Did he not like me? Was he lying to me the entire time? Someone who ghosts you lacks accountability and integrity. So when he returns wanting to pick up … [Read more...]
You’re All In, Is He? How to Have “the Talk”
Have you ever been with a man for a while (let's say 6 months) and he was clearly enjoying your company, but he never defined the relationship? You wanted to know-- "where is this going?"-- but you silenced your voice because you didn't want to pressure him. You're not sure how to have "the Talk," but the question remains, you're all in, is he? Or, maybe he told you in the … [Read more...]
Top 3 Dating Tips If You’re Single, Childless, and Over 40
If you're still single, childless, and over 40, the world can make you feel like something is wrong with you. Maybe it's your physician pressuring you to freeze your eggs at every annual visit "just in case" you don't meet the right man before your fertility expires. Perhaps you stumbled across gossip headlines like Media Takeout's post which screamed "R&B Singer ASHANTI Is … [Read more...]
Singles, 3 Signs You’re Celibate For The Wrong Reasons
Are you dating while celibate? You’re not alone! I was recently featured on an episode Lifetime TV’s Laurieann Gibson's Beyond The Spotlight show. Laurieann called me in to help her best friend Stella make empowered choices around dating while celibate. Stella made a vow of celibacy after her last relationship ended a year and half ago so that she could be clear that she was … [Read more...]
He’s Still “Not Sure” About Being Exclusive: What Should I Do?
Six months of talking on the phone every night. Six months of planning trips together. Six months of kissing...hugging...and...well, you know. Instead of celebrating this milestone with a romantic dinner at Ruth’s Chris, Natasha reached out to me because she was confused about where she stood with a man she thought she was dating for six months, yet whenever she asked … [Read more...]
You Have Two Suitors But Only One Heart: How Do You Make Up Your Mind?
After struggling for some years with finding good men to date, you follow my advice to open up and meet a variety of men. You try online dating and it's going well, but now you have a bigger problem: You have two suitors who are amazing, kind, and equally interested in pursuing a serious relationship with you. You have off the charts chemistry with one man, but you're worried … [Read more...]
Single and Unattached? 5 Reasons Dating One Man at a Time Could Be a Big Mistake
Let's say you meet a man who has everything you've been praying for. He's handsome. He's educated. He's kind. He's stable in every way. The dates are exciting, and after a few months find yourself becoming attached to him. But then, things change. There's friction and distance as you notice some serious incompatibilities that you can't get past. After 6 months … [Read more...]
5 Tips to Upgrade Your Flirting Game and Snag a Man With Swag
Do you know how to be so magnetic with men that they melt in your presence and relentlessly pursue you without you ever looking desperate or thirsty? If the answer is no, then it's time for you to upgrade your flirting game. Flirting is all about showing the person you're interested in that you are...well...interested! Batting your eyes, smiling, witty conversation, … [Read more...]
3 Powerful Relationship Lessons From ‘Black Panther’ That Can Transform Black Love (Spoiler Alert)
Black Panther has finally hit the big screen, and man it did not disappoint! My husband and I went to see the movie (sans any Afrocentric garb--unfortunately I didn't get the memo in time) and I was caught up in the rapture of the breathtaking imagery and revolutionary themes the film delivered. As the latest installment of superhero movies in the Marvel Universe, Black … [Read more...]