It is truly bitter sweet that the first black POTUS and his beautiful family are leaving the white house. We are sad that they are leaving. But at the same time, we we are truly happy that it was eight years well spent! We are so excited for them to be a part of the 'real world' again. They are leaving the ‘presidential life' behind and looking forward to all of the amazing … [Read more...]
Racing Thoughts: 7 Strategies I Used to Stop Thinking About My Husband’s Affair
When I wrote this title, I was immediately reminded of the wedding scene from the movie Best Man. Yeah, you know the one! Can you say awkward? This scene is by far one of the most tension-filled wedding scenes and so realistically acted out on film. With his best man (Taye Diggs) sporting one heck of a black eye from a serious beat down the night before, Lance (Morris … [Read more...]
Sexual Fantasies Can Actually Be Great for Your Marriage, But Here’s the Catch…
WARNING this article may contain TMI and REAL TALK! Ever wonder what it is like to _________________________________ (insert your fantasy here)? Chances are I’ve done it! Now don’t get me wrong…I haven’t done EVERYTHING! After all, I’m only 38 and have many more amazing years ahead of me and my husband…so, yup, more fantasies to come for Mr and Mrs. Macklin! However, … [Read more...]
10 Reasons We Are Going to Severely Miss the Obamas in the White House
[tps_header]BMWK family, can you believe our first but FOREVER family will be leaving the White Office? It seems like only yesterday we made history, and no one anywhere can take that away from us! Seriously, people where does the time go?!?! January 20, 2017 is merely around the corner; please say it isn’t so (someone come wipe away my tears). We've grown to love the … [Read more...]
Should I Stay Or Should I Go? 6 Ways to Help Decide If It’s Worth Salvaging Your Marriage After an Affair
So you’ve had the infidelity bomb dropped on you huh? Me too! And you've decided to give things another shot and work on your marriage. Me too! But, you still wonder, is taking your spouse back the right choice. Well, let me ask a couple questions. Does your spouse still withhold the truth even after the infidelity has been discovered? Is your spouse not taking the … [Read more...]
Mr. and Mrs. President…The Obama Love Story in Photos
“I have never been prouder to watch the rest of America fall in love with you too as our nation’s first lady.” – Barack Obama Simply Beautiful! Right? What’s not to love about First Couple Michelle and Barack Obama’s love? Let me say this upfront, with all due respect before anyone goes in on a political rant, this is not the article for that. The article is to honor … [Read more...]
5 Reasons He Wants to Avoid Talking about His Affair at All Costs
After an affair disrupts your once-happy marriage, your feelings will fluctuate wildly as if you're on an emotional roller coaster. I’m speaking from experience because this has happened to me. Yes, I’ve been in your shoes! I’m not saying this to scare you, but to equip you. What you should know is that ALL of your feelings are normal and valid for someone who’s been … [Read more...]
Does an Affair Mean the End? 6 Reasons Why Marriages Don’t Overcome Cheating
Imagine your spouse breaking their norm, and not receiving your nightly phone call or text message that usually reads, “I’m on my way home.” After multiple failed attempts to reach your spouse your intuition kicks in clearly saying, “he’s cheating.” The very next morning, you follow your urges to look through your spouse’s cell phone messages. To your dismay, you read the … [Read more...]
Beyond Betrayal; 4 Places to Turn to Immediately After Discovering Your Spouse Was Unfaithful
“If my spouse ever has an affair, I’m out!” All too often we are conditioned and almost brainwashed to believe that a relationship should and must end after a partner has been unfaithful. At some point, we have all been guilty of planning hypothetical responses to acts of infidelity, by responding to scenarios like: “if that was me, I would blah, blah, blah.” But when … [Read more...]
Happy Marriages Don’t Prevent Affairs; Sensible Strategies to Really Secure Your Relationship Against Cheating
I thought we were happy! How did this happen? This statement was my reality not once but TWICE! During our engagement, I had an affair, and years later in our marriage, my husband had an affair. Imagine that, right? Perhaps you don’t have to imagine, and if this is so, I’m sorry for your experience. But I'm sure you will one day be like me—in that I'm thankful for the … [Read more...]
Take the First Step Now Toward Becoming a Happier YOU
Are you honestly happy with your life RIGHT NOW? If so, CONGRATULATIONS! If not, CONGRATULATIONS in advance because now is a great time to evaluate all the reasons why you are not happy. Are you lonesome? Dissatisfied? Fearful? Feeling rejected or unworthy? Angry? Harboring regrets? Take a good long look at what you’re REALLY feeling because sometimes we lie to ourselves … [Read more...]
You’re a Grown Woman; Stop Believing in This “Happy Marriage” Fairy Tale
Anita Baker once sang: My story ends, as stories do Reality steps into view No longer living life in paradise - no fairy tales She sings about the fairy tales her mother used to share about royal kisses, magic spells and princes who slay dragons. She discovers the reality, as many of us do, realizing that love and that so-called knight in shining armor cannot alone … [Read more...]
5 Tips to Rekindle the Flame in Your Marriage…Sizzle Don’t Fizzle!
In my Keith Sweat voice…Make It Last Forever! Making it last forever is not as easy as it looks. It requires work, but that “work” can be rewarding. And what better reward for that work than the marriage that keeps on giving…FOREVER?! Keep YOUR Marital Flame Burning Bright Remember that 1993 movie Groundhog Day with Bill Murray, in which he relives the same day every … [Read more...]
Once a Cheater Always a Cheater…Not Necessarily!
A couple years ago when our story aired on OWN via the show Unfaithful: Stories of Betrayal several people would say, “You can’t love your husband, and he can’t love you if you both cheated!” Yep, that’s right, we both cheated (understand we're not proud rather transparent for educational and inspirational purposes). He cheated during our first year of marriage, and I during … [Read more...]
Beyoncé’s “Lemonade” Public Praise or Private Prison – To Tell or Not to Tell?
The day after “Lemonade” debuted I awoke to the masses wanting to quench their Lemonade thirst on my Facebook timeline! Having not been a big “B” fan I had to do some research, having missed the big HBO debut. However, I was able to locate a free trial via Tidal (which is owned by Beyoncé & Jay-Z; do you see how genius and strategic this power couple played this?). I … [Read more...]