Here's the first thought that comes to mind when I read this question: Why are so many good men still single? Good men are like fruit cakes during the holiday season. There's always a lot of talk about them, but no one really wants one. I was asked to respond to the question above, which was posed in a relationship group that I was invited to join on Facebook. What was … [Read more...]
Single Ladies, Are You Making These 4 Mistakes In Dating?
Ladies, dating can be tough. And you’re entitled to make your mistakes in the tricky world of dating. But if you’re making these common four mistakes, it’s best you correct them now. 1. Dating Out of Desperation Desperation is never pretty. It hinders good judgment. What causes acts of desperation in dating? A prior failed relationship is among the top reasons. Also among the … [Read more...]
Single Ladies, How to Know When It’s Time to Tell Him Goodbye (Part 2)
Last week, we dealt with the “Emotional Manipulator” and “Arguing vs. Fighting.” (click here to read). Part II, begins with...Deal-breakers Relationship deal-breakers usually consist of things like smoking, drinking, drug usage, children, bad credit, criminal record, no college education, inadequate money, undesirable physical attributes, religious differences, etc.? This … [Read more...]
Single Ladies, How to Know When It’s Time to Tell Him Goodbye (Part I)
Recently, I asked one of my social media followers if she had any suggestions for topics for my podcast show, “Writeous Talk on Love and Relationships." Shortly thereafter, I received an inbox with her topic idea, “When is it time to go?” She asked, "Sometimes people end relationships too quickly. Other times, they remain in them too long. When should you leave a … [Read more...]
Insight into the Mind of a Player. And, Ladies, You’ll Want to Hear This
The player persona is all a façade. Many men play this role because they are afraid they may not be accepted for who they really are. Of course, they would never tell you this. It's easier to create a persona that exudes confidence, masculinity and all those things popular culture has taught men to fake. His experiences also reinforce the decision to play this role. After … [Read more...]
Avoiding Murky Situations: 5 Easy Steps that Will Keep You From Cheating on Your Girl
Here's the backstory. I just left the Kroger around the block from my apartment. It's currently 11:38pm. I went there to get some fruit and something to drink before sitting down to get some writing done tonight. As I walk into the store headed to the organic/natural section, this young lady is heading in my direction. She pauses for a moment and looks to her right at some … [Read more...]
Fellas, Here’s the Right Way to Really Make Love with Your Woman.
It’s raining. Each raindrop gently falls as though it were a small piece of the clouds, descending to the earth below. Ever so softly, the steady fall of drops whisper a melody as they splash upon their window pane. Inside, a pair of lovers, oblivious to the outside world, lie there affixed in each other’s embrace. Now that I’ve got your attention. I just described the … [Read more...]
Single Ladies: 5 Poor Excuses to Go Back to Your Man and One Good Reason to Stay
Sometimes, good-bye is really just "see you later" (after I get over the anger you caused.) And at other times, it really is the final "farewell." Knowing when to part ways is a necessary part of the dating process in order to arrive at a healthy relationship with someone who shares the same values, qualities, and other foundational principles needed for compatibility. Here … [Read more...]
3 Distinguishing Qualities of a Faithful Man and How to Spot a Cheater
Can a man be faithful when he has the option to lay in "greener pastures?" Really think about that for a moment. The statement above, if true, would seem to prove otherwise. All men have the option to cheat. Whether or not a man cheats has little do with availability. It has everything to do with the character of that man. To be, or not to be faithful are both individual … [Read more...]
4 Things to Know About ‘I Love You’ that Can Help Your Relationship Succeed
“Feelings are like sales prices. They are subject to change without notice.” -Derek Q. Sanders ‘I love you’ is among the sweetest words that our ears will ever hear, especially when the words are uttered from the lips of someone we care for deeply. Love is a behavior. Love is what we do. Love leads. Those three short words can touch and warm almost any heart in ways that … [Read more...]
3 Very Costly Relationship Mistakes that Singles Should Avoid
The tragedy of "new love" is that often it dies young, long before it reaches the "golden years." Too many couples rush into certain territories far too soon and negatively impact the direction and outcome of their relationships. We want to be strategic without being mechanical and free-flowing without being loose. Love is not a sprint. It's a long slow walk. There are … [Read more...]
Women: The Naked Truth About Why He Won’t Commit…At Least Not to You
"Why won't he commit?" or "Why are men afraid of commitment?" There are any number of variations of the same question asked by disenfranchised women just looking for answers as to why the men that they love will not commit to them. There seem to be more excuses than there are reasons. Men have their reasons. Here, we look beyond the surface to find some answers. Man … [Read more...]
Ladies: 5 Ways to Tell If You’re Being Hunted or Pursued
Ladies: "Men are hunters." We've all heard this, right? It’s an old familiar saying and one that is accepted by most of us. It bolsters a sense of valor in men while at the same times gives women, who have become weary, a reason to be a little more patient while awaiting their “discovery” by the proverbial “hunter”. When ladies take matters into their own hands, they are … [Read more...]
4 Decisions Happy Couples Make Every Single Day…No Exceptions!
Before a man and woman walk down the aisle together and enter a marriage that lasts a lifetime, something amazing must take place. And I don't mean choosing a beautiful gown for her and a dapper tuxedo for him. I'm not even talking about their choice of groomsmen and bridesmaids to share their special day. No, long before the "I Do's" are even conceived, a man and woman … [Read more...]
How to Tell if Your Mr.Right is Really Your Mr.Wrong
Who is “Mr. Right” and what exactly does he look like? His description will vary from one woman to the next as each woman has her own personalized list of requirements for the elusive Mr. Right. Many women literally have a written detailed list of requirements that make up Mr. Right which is not a bad idea at all provided that list is reasonable. It might be helpful to see … [Read more...]