I think that most of us have a level of clarity as to what infidelity is in a relationship. It is when someone cheats, creeps or steps out on their significant other. Simply put, it has to do with the breaking of an agreement or bond. Whatever one chooses to call it, the consequences initiate a brutal strain on all aspects of trust related to a committed relationship. The … [Read more...]
Silence: The Silent Killer For Marriage
Do a quick Google search on "silent killers" and here is some of what you will find: diabetes, hypertension, ovarian cancer, pancreatic cancer, hydrogenated oils, carbon monoxide, AIDS...and the list goes on and on. All pretty serious stuff that can be lurking around the corner and in our bodies. We are unaware of their presence as well as their destructive work. To me it is … [Read more...]
How Do We Instill Positivity In Our Children?
Maybe I watch too much TV, or drive by my neighborhood schools at the wrong time, but I must admit the results of a new study of roughly 73,000 teens are surprising to me. The study, by the Archives of General Psychiatry indicates that Asian and African-American teens are less likely to use and abuse illegal drugs than whites and other races. As a result, African-American teens … [Read more...]
This Is A Man’s World, But…
Okay, so now you know what I was listening to during my morning workout, today, the classic 1968 James Brown anthem, "This is a Man's World." But this morning I heard it with a different "ear" than I have previously. The lyrics of this classic song brought me to a infinitely more classic verse of the Bible in Genesis 2:24: "For this reason a man shall leave his father and … [Read more...]
Preparing For The Seasons Of Your Marriage
As I watch the end of the fall leaf changing season, I have to wrestle with my denial that the summer is over. I find it interesting that every season comes with it's own clothes, it's own weather conditions, it's own highs and lows, it's own attitude, if you will. Just as there are clearly defined seasons of "Mother Nature," there are also clear seasons of marriage. Here … [Read more...]
11 Things Husbands Absolutely Love About Their Wives
Okay so I can not speak for every man, everywhere, but can I just share a few things that just might encapsulate what husbands love about their wife? It is important that it is understood that this is a list by a husband, and for husbands to share about and with their wives. Why is that an important disclosure? Because this post is not about finding a woman, nor about sex (per … [Read more...]
The Legacy of Steve Jobs, The Legacy of Your Marriage
As everyone knows by now, America lost a giant and sheer icon of American genius and innovation when Steve Jobs, the founder of Apple, co-founder of Pixar and the "father" of the personal computer, passed away last month. Since his death the world has gained a sense of clarity about the life and legacy of Jobs - even beyond Apple and Pixar. What has been the most insightful … [Read more...]
What Hurricane Irene Taught Me About My Marriage
So as the East Coast gets close to back to normal after Hurricane Irene I am taking a minute to reflect on how the storm provided a report card for my marriage. Let me start with the lead up to the weekend of the hurricane. My wife and I have not had what she calls a real vacation in about three years. By "real vacation" my wife means a Caribbean or tropical destination for … [Read more...]
Is The Bible Relevant To Your Marriage?
Lately I have been running into a few people saying the same thing, and I decided to bring it to the BMWK family for further investigation. "Is the Bible still relevant for marriages today?" A few weeks ago a woman from one of the largest Christian family ministries was sharing with me that a seminary professor told her it would be impossible to live married according to … [Read more...]
5 Back-to-School Conversations Every Dad Must Have With His Kids
Every year I hear so much about what to buy your child for the new school year. But little is ever said about how to prepare your child for the year mentally. So to all of my BMWK fathers, our role in helping to get our kids ready to take on a new year can never be overstated. I don't know why and sometimes I don't know how, but despite what we see in the mirror and know … [Read more...]
Building A Bridge To Your Spouse’s Heart
This weekend I picked up a new parenting book, Raising Motivated Kids by Cheri Fuller, on the Kindle Bestsellers list of free books. (Oh yes, I am a "free is me" kind of guy. I have only read the first chapter which is about the quality of relationship bridges we build with our children. In that first chapter, she talked about the importance of building bridges to … [Read more...]
Men That Do More Housework…Enjoy More Intimate Time with their Wife?
So last week I saw a segment on the Today show that stated that men spend more time doing housework that women do"”by about 8 seconds. That's right, 8. Unfortunately I could not find the actual video from the show, but trust me ladies, it exists. I did find another blog that reported the same results based on the Today show segment, but all the links to the video were "broken." … [Read more...]
In Memoriam: A Tribute to Clarice “Anna Huxtable†Taylor
By Edward C. Lee Emmy nominated actress (1986), Clarice Taylor passed away this week at the age of 93. She is best known for her role as Anna Huxtable, Bill Cosby's mother on The Cosby Show. I remember when the Cosby Show was in its prime, there were those that felt that the show was not a real picture of "Black America." It was an argument that I did not agree with then, … [Read more...]
If You Are Happy and You Know It, Then Your Marriage Will Surely Show It
By Edward C. Lee If you are happy and you know it then your marriage will surely show it. It is funny how the light and silly things of life seem to provide the deepest moments of enlightenment. This morning I was at my son's swimming lesson, jumping around in the pool with about 10, 3-year-olds singing, "If Your Happy and You Know It," when suddenly the realization and joy … [Read more...]
The Mother I Hated, The Mother I Love!
By Edward C. Lee Ok, I won't be repeating the H-word from the title, it hurts just looking at it. But I think all of us can look back to some point in our relationship with our mother and remember thoughts or expressions of... dislike for mom's expression of love toward us. My mother has always been supportive, caring, compassionate and just an all around great mom. She … [Read more...]