It’s nice to be one of the girls or one of the guys or whatever combination of friends your spouse has.
But when you don’t have your own stash of friends, these experiences can create an imbalance in your relationship with your spouse which has the potential to cause you to become resentful of your spouse’s friendships and if left unchecked even suspicious and jealous of them.
The solution? Get your own friends. If you didn’t enter the marriage with your own stable of confidants then take the initiative and build a one. This can be comprised of just one solid individual who respects you and will listen to you and vice versa.
If you did enter the marriage with friends but gradually lost touch with them for one reason or another, there’s no time like the present to reach out to them, literally. With the reach of social media you can reconnect with almost anyone, no matter how much geography separates you. And sometimes geography might not separate you at all. An old friend might be in your own backyard. But you’ll never know unless you find out.
Ask yourself: When you find the quality of your friendships lacking, does it make it harder or easier for you in your marriage?