BMWK Anniversary Classic: Divorce Is NOT an Option!!

We had so much fun last week we’re still going to run classic BMWK posts in addition to our regular content to celebrate our one year anniversary on Blackandmarriedwithkids.com for a little while longer. Original post date: May   29, 2008.

On Monday, Will Smith told talk show host Ellen Degeneres that one of the reason’s that he and Jada were able to stay married for so long (10 years and counting) is that divorce is not an option for his marriage. Will stated:

What I found is divorce just can’t be an option,” the actor explained. “It’s really that simple. And I think that’s the problem with L.A. ““ there are so many options. So a huge part of the success for [Jada] and I is that we just removed the other options.”

The secret to their success? “We’re like listen, we’re going to be together one way or the other so we might as well try to be happy,” he said.

Her View – I think it is all about attitude and your state of mind. Like Will states, if we are going to be together, then we should be happy. If you really believe that divorce is not an option for your marriage, then you will do what it takes to make sure that your marriage is happy. You will be willing to work on it.. even during the most difficult of times. So it’s more than just saying the words”....it is also living it. You can say the words all you want..but if you are being abusive or if you are cheating and you are doing these things repeatedly“...then your actions show that divorce is an option.

Personally, I believe that divorce is not an option for my marriage. But deep down, I know there are some things that I feel are unacceptable.

His View – I’m down with this statement and generally apply it in my marriage. Of course if someone were to really abuse you and the relationship you need to get up out of there but in general divorce is not an option. Really I think that if everyone kept that in mind there would be less cases of divorce. I personally think in today’s society divorce is an easy way out of not working on your marriage, on your communication and on your commitment. Even when TheMom gets on my last nerve I just whisper to myself “... “TheDad, divorce is not an option” sike I’m just kidding with that one yall, just a jokey joke don’t tell TheMom. But back on a serious note I went into our marriage with that thinking and hold onto it still.

BMWK Family – Is it reasonable or even feasible to say divorce is not an option? Are there certain situations where divorce would be a better option than staying married? Do you believe that divorce is not an option for your marriage? Does this mean divorce is not an option no matter what happens in the marriage?