We are inundated daily with magazine articles, reality television, and social media news feed that show an endless barrage of negative images, stories, and statistics about marriage. All of these images seem to report that every marriage is doomed for one reason or another.
One could easily begin to believe that their marriage will be plagued with money problems, unruly children, constant discontent, or a “grass is greener” mindset by one or both partners. I have to admit in my work as a Relationship Life Coach, I do work with couples that have faced some of these marital woes.
However, these are not issues that every couple I work with has faced. In fact, I have to admit and am happy to report, that I work with a lot of couples that have happy healthy marriages that are merely seeking ways to continue to strengthen their union.
I am writing this article because I don’t want you to fall victim to all of the negative hype that we constantly see and hear about marriage. There are so many couples that LOVE being married and genuinely LOVE the person they are married to. Happy marriages are not a fairytale. They are real and they do exist. Since bad news always seems to travel faster and is reported more often than good news, allow me to take a moment to share some good news today.
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What the non-believers, haters, dream killers, undercover jealous, and chronically negative, lonely, and miserable people don’t want you to know is that Marriage ROCKS!!! It’s fun and exciting, deeply spiritual, and intensely intimate and romantic. Marriage is sexy. Simply put, Marriage IS the New Black.
Married Couples Do Reconnect, Recharge, and Restore
There are so many things that I have encountered in my professional life that confirm for me that there is a huge segment of the population that truly enjoy being married. I have a successful career as a Relationship Life Coach because committed couples proactively search for ways to enhance or save their marriage. Couples in large numbers attend relationship seminars, workshops, retreats, and seek individual relationship coaching.
In all of my years as a Relationship Life Coach, I have never facilitated a workshop or retreat or spoken at a seminar where couples were forced to attend under court order, or as a requirement to keep their jobs, homes, or children. It has been my personal experience that every couple has willfully and willingly, although sometimes nervously, registered to attend.
I have even had the pleasure of working with several couples multiple times because they enjoyed the events so much and they were able to walk away with tools they could implement immediately. My work has further proven that happy married couples exist in unreported hefty numbers; in that I no longer have to advertise or plan workshops and retreats for couples to sign up for. My client base has grown immensely from word of mouth and repeat business.
It’s a frequent occurrence for me to have a group to contact me with an engagement, venue, or cabin ready to go in hopes that my calendar can accommodate their request. Moreover, I’ve never been invited to an empty room to serve as a keynote speaker for a relationship conference. There is never a shortage of excited committed couples lined up to fill an audience at relationship seminars. Happy marriages do exist. They are not mythical like unicorns, nor are they legendary folklore like the Loch Ness monster or Big Foot. There are many couples in love that take the initiative to learn how to live happily ever after.
Yes, Marriage is Sexy in Cyberspace
We live in an age in which social media is king. Yes, there are negative images, quotes, and stories on social media about marriage. Conversely, there’s also a wealth of positive information shared on social media about marriage and relationships. Couples can join websites like meetup.com so they can connect with tons of other like-minded married couples.
They can find married couples in their area to travel with, go on date nights with, cook with, worship with, etc. They can meet married couples that are their age, that have the same interest and hobbies, or married couples that have decided to be a dynamic duo and remain kid free. Meetup.com is a wonderful way to meet and stay connected to people that value and enjoy marriage as much as you do.
Facebook also has numerous marriage groups that couples can join such as: I love My Husband, Young, Black and Married, Husband and Wife for Life, Marriage, Xklusive Thoughts, and my personal favorite Lip Service Lounge to name a few. These groups offer relationship advice, support, and words of encouragement to help reaffirm your commitment to your mate and your marriage. Last but not least there are several websites solely dedicated to helping you keep your marriage happy, healthy, and thriving.
One of the most phenomenal websites committed to sharing positive information about marriage is blackandmarriedwithkids.com. They have really elevated the reality that marriage is sexy. The website provides information that inspires, educates, and empowers couples to have the best marriage possible. This relationship site make you feel that love…real love… is not only possible, but is also in fact relevant, meaningful, and attainable.
Folks as I said before don’t believe the negative hype or the naysayers. Marriage is beautiful, sexy, and IS indeed the new black. One thing we all have in common is the fact that we all have wanted to be in a relationship, are currently in a relationship, or have been in a relationship. Make it your personal mission to surround yourself with positive people that respect, believe in, and find value in the sanctity of marriage.
Now that you have been given a dose of truth from someone who knows a thing or two about relationships; learn to become aware of the negative energy so that you can shake off, turn off and tune it out and focus on bringing sexy back to your marriage.
BMWK, how are going to restore and work on your marriage?