Placing your wife on a pedestal may seem superficial but really it’s not. It’s a place of honor that is rightfully hers as your wife. That spot became hers and hers alone the moment you both said, “I do.”
Don’t take her for granted, celebrate the crown of glory God has given you. Put her on a pedestal in your heart. A pedestal is a high place that is used to support and show off something of value. It is also a form of protection from things that could bring harm.
Let’s just lay it out with four reasons to place your wife on a pedestal.
1. She is your crown
I’m a church girl, and I see this in Proverbs chapter 12, verse 4. Here it talks about a shameful wife, but it also says that a good wife is a crown to her husband’s head. Now understand, a crown goes on the head, not the feet. She is placed at the top. She is adorned with rare and precious jewels. She represents power, glory and beauty.
Gut check: Are you taking her for granted or do you cherish what you have together every day? I have a friend who has lost not one wife but two due to illnesses. Never in his wildest dreams did he think this could happen. But he has no regrets because he cherished his wives in his heart and in his actions on a daily.
See this is how you have to think of your wife—beautiful, precious and powerful. Treat her as a rare find. Make sure she knows at every moment of your lives together that she is your crowning glory and never taken for granted.
2. She is your good thing
A man’s greatest treasure is his wife—she is a gift from the LORD. Proverbs chapter 18, verse 22 says, “he who finds a wife finds a good thing”.
Gut check: How do you treat your good thing? Do you want the absolute best for her?
Help her around the house, go to the grocery store with her. Find out what you can do to make her day easier. Very seldom do I pump gas. I can, of course, but I don’t like to. My hubby keeps the tank on full, and if it’s running low l say, “Rome, I need some gas in the car.” He doesn’t have to do this for me, but he does because he takes good care of his good thing.
3. She is the No. 1 lady in your life
Your wife should be your No.1 priority. That means before your children, your mama, your boss or coworkers. She should never have to compete for a position in your life.
Gut check: When your wife asks you to do something, how long does it take you to get it done? Now, if your mother or the cute chick in the office ask you to do something, how long does it take to get that done? The little things you do on a daily basis will show her that she is No. 1. The “she knows I love her” mentality is not enough; she needs to experience your love.
It should be apparent to her and to anyone who sees your relationship that your love for her is matchless. Only God himself could love her better. Now that’s a powerful love.
4. She is your protected prize
Not only is a pedestal used to display what you hold valuable, it can also protect your prized possession, keeping it out of harm’s way.
Gut-check: Are you her first line of defense? Are you praying for her? This means you are on yours knees, asking your Heavenly Father how to best take care of his daughter. This means you protect her and shut it down when any member of your family has something negative to say about her. It means if you see her struggling with something, you step in to help or relieve her of that stress.
I know an older couple, and to this day, the wife does not clean the bathrooms. He does because he feels that job isn’t suited for his queen.
You see, placing your wife on a pedestal is not about giving her ego a boost but rather about honoring your marriage and loving her so much that only her Heavenly Father could love her more.
If you thought enough of your wife to marry her, you thought she was something pretty special. Your wife holds the position as the crown to your head. She became that jewel on your wedding day. Whether you’re newlyweds or celebrating your 25th anniversary, that position of honor should be recognized.
She is not given this position because she is perfect. There is a saying, “If you put me on a pedestal I’ll disappoint you.” In my opinion, this saying is irrelevant when it comes to marriage. Your wife is to receive great honor because of the position she holds in your life not because her actions meet your every desire. Your wife will make mistakes, just as you will, however, the value that you see in one another should remain.
The mutual love and respect should remain. When it doesn’t, seek help. The value you place on each other is fundamental to sustaining your marriage.
In the years that my husband and I have worked with couples, we have witnessed the moment when a husband or a wife begins to devalue one another. And time and time again, we are able to see that the marriage is in trouble. However, when respect and honor are abundant, the marriage is generally doing well. The way you treat her; the way you look at her, the way you honor and help take good care of her—it’s all a reflection that she is your No. 1.
BMWK, are you putting you woman on a pedestal? Wives, do you feel like you’re the No.1 woman in your husband’s life?