Yesterday, I let you guys in on some of the crazy that happened to me and, quite honestly, some of the crazy that happens to anyone who finds their marriage embroiled in the aftermath of an affair. After the ugly crying and blame shifting were over, I could only do one thing, turn to God and His power. It was in that power that I was able to remember my faith and trust Him once again with my marriage. So, what kind of faith can God reignite in you in order to save your marriage when infidelity has rocked your world? Well, here’s what He did for me.
“Enjoy life with the wife whom you love all the days of your vain life which He has given you under the sun; because that is your reward in life and in your toil because you have labored under the sun” Ecclesiastes 9:9
When you marry with faith in God, you’re actually saying that you trust Him to guide your marriage in not only the good but the bad…and oh yes the ugly too! Marriage is the epitome of faith from the very beginning to end, and while our logic and reasoning are required for effective problem solving, faith helps us to remember that we are not God. A saving faith requires trusting God’s promises and plans for ourselves and definitely for our marriage.
“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares The Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11
You must understand that faith and prayer are the most powerful tools and gifts given to every Christian couple. Have you seen the movie “War Room”? The key to unlocking this powerful tool is that you must not only believe in God, but believe in yourself through Him. When I applied my faith in this profound manner, I gained the power to turn my marriage around, and so did my husband. Do you believe that you have the same exact power to do this too? You do!
“I assure you, most solemnly I tell you, if anyone steadfastly believes in Me, he will himself be able to do the things that I do; and he will do even greater things than these, because I go to the Father.” – John 14:12
I’m blessed to read and know all the glorious miracles Jesus did, and to me the most glorious was that He CHANGED and changes people’s lives. Every miracle performed He did was to glorify the Father through life changing experiences. No matter how big or small every person Jesus encountered was forever changed. Are you getting where I’m going with this? See I realized He wanted to do the same in me and our marriage…and He did! Don’t be conformed by this world but rather by the renewing of your mind. . Never forget how much He loves you and wants to work miracles in your marriage where there seems a lack.
“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect” Romans 12:2
Faith works with patience. The more we intentionally go straight to God, and turn away from the urge of trying to figure out solutions on our own; the more we invite God to be at the center of our marriage and do what only He can do…perform miracles! Understand we are human and things become taxing on us where we want to give up at times, but when we Let Go and Let God we can have faith knowing there is nothing He can not handle.
” I am the Lord, the God of all mankind. Is anything too hard for me?” – Jeremiah 32:27
I want to lovingly challenge you to reflect on how you can use your faith and the strength that lies in it to manifest the power of God in your marriage today. You already see per the above scripture that He wants your marriage to be transformed and restored prior to sin showing its ugly face in your marriage. Don’t be afraid to make the necessary changes to yourself and start with having as much belief in yourself as you have faith. Allow both to grow within you. By doing so, you’ll see the beauty of marriage multiplied in ways you never imagined possible.
And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. – Ephesians 3:14–19
God will continue to bless us as we praise him in the most high. Never give up on God because I promise you that he will never give up on you. I wish you can see and feel my heart when I say…God is so good that I rejoice!!! I grew closer to God through my storm and put him first. I trusted God’s judgment and believed in His will and He brought my husband & I back together stronger and more loving than I ever knew possible!
“Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Mark 10:9
BMWK, Are you ready to allow your faith to help you restore your union?