Is your sex life getting a little stale? Just because you’ve been together forever doesn’t mean your sex life has to be boring and predictable. Follow these five tips from Jet magazine to get your romance back to buzzing.
I use to think that being in a long-term relationship would be boring. Being with the same person, experiencing the same circle of events along with the monotony of similar and repeatable sexual experiences just seemed uninteresting.
And then I had an epiphany. What you put into your relationship is what you get out of it.
Relationships stall and become dull when you start taking each other for granted. They also may experience setbacks or problems when you fail to continue developing the areas that made your relationship strong in the first place.
But, the beauty of a long-term relationship with the right person is that it can have many advantages.
The familiarity of having someone you truly love means you can be yourself. You can lay your soul bare, be vulnerable, and be open with your imperfections because it doesn’t matter. Your significant other has proved over time that they love you regardless.
But there can be downsides to long-term relationships as well. Other life responsibilities come into play and can put strains on your union. And being with someone for a long time can lead to obligatory, limited and sometimes boring sex. It’s inevitable and bound to happen unless you are proactive.
If you are feeling a little lackluster in your sex life, here are five sex refreshers for couples in long-term relationships that can break the mold, pun fully intended:
1) Mix it up.
Try a new sex position monthly. There is a great book called, Best Sex Ever by Susan Crain Bakos. It is a pictorial of various sexual positions with techniques, essential skills needed to make it work and tools you need to turn your bedroom into a hot zone. Susan goes to great lengths to educate men and women on each other’s erogenous zones to set you up for success in each position. Try one, try two, or try many. But, without fail, changing up what you would normally do will help you to create a new norm in the bedroom.
2) Display affection in public spaces.
Thinking back on an excellent long-term relationship, I remember dating someone who had a thing for being a bit sexual in public areas. He always wanted to hold hands and be affectionate in open spaces. He liked to express how he felt through affection and it helped to make me feel more connected to him. It was tasteful, but the excitement of kissing and being affectionate in the full view of others was a turn on and provided plenty of foreplay.