A few common concerns I’ve heard from some married couples are husbands need more sex and wives want better communication. With each of these being the areas affected most in relationships, it’s no wonder it’s a constant sore spot for both partners.
Wives typically want their husbands to open up more frequently, and sometimes that isn’t always easy. Husbands typically want their wives to desire them a little more and actually want to be intimate with them more often. Again, it’s not always easy for some wives.
Brothers, if intimacy is one of your major needs and you feel it isn’t being fulfilled, here are a few things you can’t forget when it comes to enticing your wife:
1. Don’t forget to build up to the moment of intimacy
Do what’s necessary to make your wife feel sexy and excited about making love to you.
You can start by flirting with her earlier in the day. This starts to plant the seed that later that day, it’s on! Reminding her of just how sexy she is will also make her feel more sexy. Check her out by looking at her with desire and lust in your eyes. Caress her in places you know turn her on. Again, the goal is to make her feel anxious and excited about being intimate with you.
2. Don’t forget to take something off her plate occasionally
The reason most wives aren’t desiring sex more often is because they’re drained. Working in or outside the home, raising children and managing a home will wear anyone out. It’s important that you find ways to make her load a little lighter when you can. The less she has to do, the more energy she’ll have for you.
3. Don’t forget to let her take the lead sometimes
Make sure there’s a space created for her to also get her needs met. Be open to the new ideas she may want to introduce in the bedroom. Lovemaking should be exciting and feel less like a chore.
4. Don’t forget to check in with her
Intimacy can start from conversation. Ask your wife how her day was, how she’s feeling and what she needs. Those kinds of questions help her relax while demonstrating your concern. The more relaxed she is, the more fun you’ll both have later.
5. Don’t forget to make yourself more appealing to your wife
Husbands make sure you are looking good and smelling good. Physical attraction is important and can’t be taken for granted. Your wife wants to desire you. It’s easier to do when you are mindful of your appearance.
6. Don’t forget to make intimacy easier and exciting
You can make it easier by finding a babysitter, if that’s needed. Or you can even make sure your space is intimacy ready. The less she has to put into making intimacy happen, the greater the chance that intimacy will actually happen. You can also make it exciting by switching up the scenery occasionally. Think weekend getaways or overnight hotel stays.
Husbands, the more effort and energy you put into make intimacy more exciting for your wife, the better it will be for you both. Remember, she still wants to be wowed. Make her feel special and more importantly, desired by you.
BMWK, what mistakes do you feel men make when they desire more intimacy?