I was a little late to the party, 3 seasons late to be exact. But I finally got caught up on all seasons of the popular TV show “Scandal”. Now that I am officially a Gladiator, I see what all the hype is about. There’s, of course, scandal, manipulation, power and sex. Sex by way of infidelity. Which on screen comes across as steamy, passionate and may make some a little envious of such a complicated romance. Another adulterous TV affair that has us feeling some kind of way is on Tyler Perry’s “The Haves and The Have Nots”. Yes, TV and movies can somehow make cheating on a spouse look kind of well, hot.
I keep wondering why infidelity is looking so sexy on TV lately. I found that the mistress, no matter what, always seems to be turned on and in the mood for the affair to take place. This of course is not realistic in most of our marriages. With raising children, maintaining a household and working outside the home, most spouses are wiped out by the end of the day. They also seem to have on the appropriate sexy lingerie and underwear at every moment. Another challenge for real spouses, as lingerie can be uncomfortable to wear throughout the day. It isn’t always sensible to wear sexy pieces under our work clothes. Within a cheating relationship, time is also a factor. Cheating individuals are unable to spend much time together, their time has to count. So it isn’t usually spent having disagreements, its mostly spent passionately.
While it seems like a fantasy and looks sexy on TV, we all know the truth about infidelity. It’s damaging and ruins lives. It will always end with someone getting hurt. However, marriage is real. It doesn’t always feel like a fantasy, but it can be just as sexy as what we witness on TV. Here are a few tips on bringing the hot and steamy into our real lives.
Feeling sexy doesn’t always have to come in the form of lingerie. There are sexy scents, and makeups we can wear that draw our mates toward us and make us feel hot. Red lipstick and nail polish ladies, can bring out your inner vixen.
If you are sold on making the lingerie a regular part of your wardrobe, there are lines that specialize in sexy comfort. You can have the best of both worlds.
Couples must take more risks. Lovemaking doesn’t always have to happen in the same room at the same time. The bedroom can be boring. Remember, there are other spaces in your home, and outside of your home, where you can get a little frisky. We find so many reasons why we can’t, instead of being more willing to give in to the temptation and passion we feel for our spouse.
Make the time we spend together count. Wasting time complaining limits the amount of time we can spend loving on one another. We must pick our battles and everything isn’t a battle.
We have control over our sex lives. A touch here and a whisper there can be the turn ons we need to get it started more often. The little things matter. I believe marriage can be just as hot, steamy, sexy and spontaneous as infidelity appears on TV. We must be willing to put all excuses to the side and focus on how good it feels to be intimate with our spouse.
BMWK, how do you maintain the sexy in your marriage?