I came across a great post on a young brothers blog and wanted to share it with my BMWK family. He’s a student at Morehouse in Atlanta and details a conversation he was having with a fellow student recently. During the conversation his friend expressed interest in finding a great woman in the future and having a baby with her. When he asked the friend about marriage he replied, “Marriage is for white people and that real black people don’t get married”.
*Jaw Drops*
Yeah, I’m serious. We all know about the Washington Post article from a few years back when a middle school boy made a similar statement but this dude is in college. A good college that’s supposed to house some of the brightest minds in the black community! Anyway, please click this link to check out how this young man articulates his stance on marriage and the reason why we need it on his blog Rare Impression.
Please leave him a comment and let him know that we appreciate his efforts and to keep doing what he’s doing. I know we have a lot of folks that read but don’t comment here, please make the effort and drop one for this young man at his spot.
If marriage is for White people and Real Blacks don’t get married, is divorce just for losers? In many cultures a child is already given away (to marriage) by their parents. Do these people who get married only stay together for the sake of who their parents chose for them from birth? Marriage is not for everybody. Marriage to me is a “welcomed chore”. If you are selfish and know you are selfish, being married is not going to be a quick fix to end being selfish. Marriage is about sharing your thoughts, ideas, life. I will check out the links. I know I will be back with more to add.
It is very sad to hear this from a young educated brother! It tells us that we have ALOT of work to do with our young people. I know that I am very blessed to come from a home where my parents were married all my life and to have grandparents that were married and to be a commited wife for 10 years! I realize that the rate of unmarried couples with children is very high in th Black community…..We have to work as a community to show the positive side of marriage…..that the work that is involved with a commited life long relationship is part of the package ……that it is just like all things in life……you continue to work to maintain the beauty and make it better and better…but that it is an active process NOT a magic fairy tale!
I pray that this young brother is able to see the light with help from some positive folks in his life!
all the best
this was an eye opener! Its incredible to be aprt of another person’s soul. I lost my soulmate this year after 8 years…..we were’nt married and I wish I would have accepted his offer. God bless you for this information.