Why I’m NOT Getting My Wife a Mother’s Day Gift…
Me: Do I have to get you something for Mother’s Day?
Her: Well I would probably expect a small token…at least a card or something.
Me: Ummm….oh ok.
Okay so before you wonder why that conversation was so awkward, it’s because my wife and I don’t currently have any children but we are expecting our first in about 4 months. I have to be honest and say that buying her a Mother’s Day gift hasn’t even crossed my mind yet. I mean birthday and anniversary, I’m all in, but I’m not quite connected with the whole parent thing yet. Yeah I know some of you will read this and think, “how insensitive, or how dare you not think of her on Mother’s Day!”
Yeah, well I’m almost sure the people saying that will be wives and mothers, but as for men, I don’t think we really connect as much until we see a live and in person baby.
Here are the things I am connecting with as a father to be.
1) Her growing tummy!
I know something is in there because every day I wake up, I see that tummy get bigger and bigger. I also saw the sonogram, so I know something is in there. I’m seeing the transition from those skinny jeans to those maternity jeans and I’ve seen her almost in tears because she can’t fit her favorite dress right now. I sure she doesn’t think so but I think it’s kinda cute.
2) The cravings!
I don’t think I’ve ever eaten or purchased so much watermelon in my life, but my wife and this baby are on a watermelon kick! That’s just the beginning because I know she came upstairs the other night at midnight with a bowl full of ice cream and brownies as well. I must confess that my willpower hasn’t been good, because everything she craves I eat right along with her. I knew we were in trouble the other night when we said forget the chicken and vegetables she cooked and made a trip to Five Guys for burgers and fries. Y’all pray for me and my weight.
3) The mood swings
I’m not even going to even comment on how I’ve seen her go from smiling to crying in about 2.2 seconds. I won’t open up that can of worms!
4) Having my alcoholic beverages alone
I always used to look forward to my wife and I having an adult beverage or two after a long work week but I must say it isn’t the same doing it by yourself. I don’t care how much sparkling wine or “mock tails” there are, they just aren’t the real thing. Not even close!
5) The Sleep
Let’s just say my wife has become the queen of naps (she’s upstairs taking one now as I type) and for some reason I’ve been more tired that normal. I started to get a sonogram on myself just to make sure she was the only one that was pregnant. I’m tired of being sleepy.
6) The Glow
I used to always hear people talk about a pregnant woman glows but now I know what that really looks like. The glow is bigger than her looks, it’s just something about the spirit that changes as well. It’s that nurturing glow that you start to see forming that comes with extra care and concern. It’s a beautiful thing to see.
So the truth of the matter is that I probably will end up getting my wife something for Mother’s Day, but hopefully now she understands that although I might not be able to feel the baby moving and I may not be getting the morning sickness, I’m still in this with her. I can’t wait to see her as a mother, me as a father, and US as a family!
BMWK, Should you buy a first time pregnant woman a mother’s day gift?