You may not get into all the celebrity gossip (so, good for you), but there was a recent headline that surfaced, and we were curious to pose this question to our BMWK married couples:
What actions (other than emotional/physical infidelity) would you consider a breach of boundaries in your marriage?
The question came to us after reading headlines that rapper T.I. and singer/reality star Tiny were rumored to be heading to divorce after video surfaced of Tiny dancing with boxer Floyd Mayweather. Of course, we’re sure there is more to this story than just a “dance” (such as a history of animosity between the rapper and boxer and other private information), so none of us can really comment, weigh in or judge their situation.
But we wanted to use the public scenario to spark another discussion. Many of us have probably discussed major deal breakers with our spouses, for instance, cheating, lying, drug use, financial impropriety. But there are other grayer, seemingly more innocent areas that may not have come up. For example:
- Is it okay to dance with someone from the opposite sex if your spouse isn’t around to approve?
- Is it okay to exchange numbers/social media accounts with strangers of the opposite sex for professional, networking or other innocent reasons?
- Is it okay to accept a gift or free meal from someone of the opposite sex?
- Is it okay to DM (direct message) someone of the opposite sex in a social manner?
These are hardly “divorceable offenses” alone, but if there’s a chance you and your spouse will see these perspectives differently, this could be the potential event to set off a slew of problems in your household?
So, BMWK, we want to know: what’s considered crossing the line in your marriage? And have you already discussed these potential offenses with your spouse? Or, is it even more simplistic than that? Do you trust your spouse enough to do what’s right by you in uncharted territory?