As you may know, for the last 3 weeks my focus has been on the virtuous woman highlighted in Proverbs 31. We examined how modern-day wives compare, the rewards that come from being a wife of noble character, and how husbands were actually treating their good woman.
As I bring this 4-part series to a close, I wanted to discuss the individuals who are sometimes forgotten when we consider the type of spouse we plan to be. Of course our partner is first and foremost. We want to be loving, gentle and supportive while making sure their needs are met.
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But for those of us married with children, we must also think about the impact our marriage has on our kids. They are watching your behavior and taking note on how to show up in a marriage and how to handle any challenges that may surface.
As I studied Proverbs 31 again, I noticed something I hadn’t given much thought to previously. In the NIV version of Proverbs 31, before the chapter begins, it states “The sayings of King Lemuel—an inspired utterance his mother taught him.”
Yes, the wisdom shared in this scripture was taught by King Lemuel’s mother. As parents we have the honor and responsibility of teaching our children about life in general but also about love and marriage.
We sometimes take for granted what we teach.
My daughters are watching how I interact with their dad and more than likely they are going to repeat my behavior.
It is also a very high probability that they are going to seek a man like their father, so the behavior he demonstrates better also be on point.
In addition to our children’s observations, as parents, we must also have conversations explaining a few things about love and relationships. They need to know the following:
God designed marriage
From Genesis 2:24 to Hebrews 13:4, our children should be taught that God not only honors marriage, but provides a clear guideline for us to follow. A marriage is destined for greatness when we follow God’s principles.
What to look for in a mate and why
The why is almost as important as the qualities being sought. Our children need to understand the benefits that come from a healthy marriage and the impact for generations to come. Reminding them why love, honesty, strong communication and faithfulness are all important will set them up for relationship success.
Why they should have a goal of being a great spouse
The better they are as a partner, the stronger their marriage will be. We must teach them about commitment and sacrifice and why these two are necessary for love to last.
They should never enter a marriage unprepared
We know they are going to fall in love, probably a few times, right? Our children must know that as exciting as love feels, not everyone is meant to be their spouse. Sharing our own love story could help in these moments.
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They must be taught how to know, without a doubt, when the person and time is right. Help them to take note of how the person makes them feel and the sacrifices they are willing to make for that person, both are usually good signs.
Our responsibilities in marriage go well beyond the confines of the relationship. It spreads and reaches those we love most. It must be taken seriously. We are impacting future generations with our actions today. Teaching our children the value of marriage should definitely be added to the daily life lessons we’re sharing along the way.
BMWK, which other lessons do you think children should be taught about marriage?