7:30 p.m. is when the magic happens. The sound of bathwater running brings about a euphoria that’s only topped by the one I feel at the end of my work day. That magic moment is bed time and I love it almost as much as my kids hate it.
I love my babies, but by the end of the day, I need some time just to be me. I need time to talk to my husband, eat a bowl of cereal, paint my toenails if I’m feeling froggish, or just sit and stare off into space without hearing “Can I have a fruit snack?” “I don’t understand this math problem,” or the ever popular and wonderful “Mommy, come wipe me please!”
I imagine that parents whose kids are burning the midnight oil must operate much differently than I do. For me, the kids’ bedtime is rescue time. At the most it’s a time to rescue my mind, my house and my time from the frenzy that the kids can bring, and at the very least, it’s a time to connect with my husband uninterrupted. And I need that rescue, every night.
Strengthen your relationship with both your spouse and yourself by getting those kids in bed long before you’re ready to turn in. I need at least an hour, but if you can’t get them in bed an hour earlier, give yourself enough time so that you aren’t putting them in the bed and then passing out immediately with no time for you. And don’t be afraid to be “mean” mommy/daddy when you do it either, because the truth is, they need the rest just as much, if not more than you do.
What time do your kids go to bed at night?
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