It seems that no matter how long you have been married, talking about each other's family is still a tricky situation that should be handled delicately. And, should never be done while you are arguing. Rabbi Shmuley, a relationship expert that was often seen on the Oprah Show, says one way to fight fairly is to never bring your spouses family into an argument. "Marriage is … [Read more...]
6 Tips on How to Talk about Serious Issues with Your Spouse
by Amy Morin When you need to have a serious talk with your spouse, it can be difficult to find the right time, the right place, and the right way to say it. Blurting out “I don’t want your mother to stay with us for a month after the baby is born,” right before you head off to work isn’t likely to be helpful. Instead, it’s important to carefully think about what you want … [Read more...]
What Is The Silver Lining in Your Current Relationship Struggle?
I am always hopeful when a couple contacts me with the expectation of improving or saving their relationship. In that moment, neither of them are able to feel or sense the optimism that I see because they are right in the middle of the storm. Contacting a relationship professional is no easy task for a couple. It requires courage. Knowing that they will have to be completely … [Read more...]
Have You Ever Made A Decision Your Spouse Disagreed With?
A recent conversation with a married friend of mine quickly resulted in my wanting to get feedback from my BMWK family on this particular topic. This friend made a personal choice that her spouse disagreed with. While her husband was not pleased she felt confident that he would come around, and honestly our spouses usually do. Normally, much thought and careful consideration go … [Read more...]
Why You Should Treat Your Spouse Like a Stranger
Have you ever noticed how nice you are to your friends, acquaintances and even total strangers? You smile. You say "Hello". You extend such courtesies as holding doors open for them. And in some instances, you even ask: "How are you?" and even make small talk. They can do something we don't like and most often it's like water on a duck's back. It rolls right off! I … [Read more...]
I Know You Don’t Want to Hear This, Guess What, Sometimes You’re Going to Have to Give In
There are some who struggle with the idea of being wrong or having to apologize. There are others who are stubborn as mules and will stand firm in their belief whether it's right or wrong. Even in a committed partnership, with the person they love, some people are simply not willing to "give in". They will stand their ground and fight, even when the fight isn't justified or … [Read more...]
Just a Few More Words Can Make the Difference
by Harriet Hairston I've noticed in my years of marriage that avoiding disagreements is as simple as giving the other person a few more words. Consider the following scenario (names have been changed to protect the innocent and the guilty): Kevin and Jada are a married couple with a four year old son living in a small 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom home. Jada recently lost her … [Read more...]
Do You Turn On Each Other?
by Ronnie Tyler What happens when things go wrong in your marriage or relationship? Do you turn on each other or do you look to each other for comfort and support? What if your partner screws up majorly? Do you criticize him/her...do you say I told you so? Or do you provide love, support and reassurance? Lamar and I turned on each other once when we … [Read more...]