When a man is ready for marriage, there are specific things he looks for in a woman before he decides to commit. Typically, he keeps the criteria for his ideal woman close to he vest. While this strategy works great for him, it can make dating and relationships frustrating and dealing with your man can feel confusing. But by embracing the following 5 secrets, you’ll be able … [Read more...]
I Love Her, But Why Does She Keep Pulling Away?
Does it seem that every time you start to get close she pulls away? You think maybe she is the one and then she goes into hibernation. It feels like she is purposely doing things to keep you at a distance. If this is happening, know she is not crazy but, she does have a past. Here are 3 reasons she may be pulling away even though she cares about you very much. Hear what she … [Read more...]
How Do You Hold on When Your Spouse is Financially Unstable?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I've been married for two years going on three years in September. We met at a church revival. We started dating on April 25, 2012, and got engaged on August 16, 2012. We got married on September 28, 2012. Just giving you a timeline. As I look over my life, I think back to high school. When they ask you, where do you see yourself after high school? I … [Read more...]
Is Love Really Different from a Male Perspective?
Years ago, I started my very first blog page entitled, “love from a male perspective.” I had some ideas about love & relationships that I wanted to share that I thought might be relevant/beneficial to the discussion. At the time, I was so insecure and apprehensive about sharing my thoughts publicly that I chose not to use an actual photo of myself to maintain … [Read more...]
Men! 15 Reasons We Need You Beyond Sex and Moving Furniture
By Judi Mason Please note: I cannot speak and do not proclaim to speak for every woman. However, I know quite a few women and have heard the concerns of many, so I speak on behalf of them as a collective group. Please hear their voices in this article. Men, we as women need you! Please know that relationships are not about us being right and you being wrong. They’re not … [Read more...]
Know Your Limits: How Long Are You Going to Allow Your Mate to Disrespect You?
Several of my clients have come to me with circumstances that have a consistent theme: Their man is a guy who has a value system which is blatantly disrespectful to women and they allow their self-respect to be tested repeatedly by these guys. If a person is disrespectful toward you, that is definitely a problem within the offender. When you allow the disrespect to continue … [Read more...]
5 Keys to Working on Your Past Issues Together
Everybody has issues!...Well not exactly. Yes we have all experienced things in our life that has likely created some issues at some point. However, some people have taken the time to address and resolve them. While others may have ignored them, or moved past them on the surface. The latter can lead to two people coming together in a relationship and experiencing a greater … [Read more...]
Don’t Be Misled By the Soulmate Myth
By Alfred Edmond Jr. One of the most misleading myths related to how loving, healthy, romantic relationships are established is the concept of the “soulmate”–that one person, somewhere in the world, created (or in the language of the religious, anointed) just for you. This concept is promoted and celebrated in church, in books and especially in movies. Who can forget the … [Read more...]
4 Myth-Busters about Valentine’s Day from a Man’s Point of View
Valentine’s Day is a day to honor our mates with symbols of our love and affection. The question becomes is Valentine’s Day a day to celebrate our spouses and significant others or it is a day exploited by Russell Stover’s, FTD and Hallmark? Likely, it’s some of both of those things, which brings us to the topic, what is the reality as opposed to the myths of Valentine’s … [Read more...]
Is He the One? How to Tell if You Should Commit
I admit it. I have a problem. I just can’t seem to let things go! “What if I need it,” I reason? “I’ll keep it just in case.” Yes, I am a pack rat, at least when it comes to papers, books and journals. I’ve got boxes and boxes of the stuff to prove it. In the last 10 years, I’ve moved to three different parts of the country and some of the boxes have moved with me each … [Read more...]
The One Thing a Christian Wife Needs from Her Husband
There are many expectations that come along with being considered a Christian and a husband. When you consider yourself a Christian, then you’re saying that you are a follower of Christ, and that your life is no longer yours, but lived fully for Him. Now, combine that with husband and now you’re saying you’re a Christ following husband that desires to love his wife as Christ … [Read more...]
“Gender Speak”: The Two Faces of Healthy Communication
"The worst thing that can happen (between us) is if we don't talk." Those were the words I heard often, from my father, when I was a child. Grammar aside, that was a principle that he instilled in my siblings and I, stressing the dire necessity of communication in a relationship. As a child, you don't fully grasp the gravity of such foundational principles until you become … [Read more...]
5 Ways to Have Daily Foreplay
Women often share with me they need their men to be more conscious of them throughout the day, which would lead to the intimacy carrying on into the night. As men, we could do some things better that would keep her fire lit. We know that we have to deal with the kids, work, taking care of home, etc., but it’s our job as men to remind her just how beautiful and important she … [Read more...]
7 Guiding Principles for a Great Marriage in 2015!
When going into a new year, we can't help but reflect back on what we've been through. Our marriage should be our most important relationship, that we should continuously nurture day after day, and year after year. A new year is great time to evaluate the strengths & weaknesses in your marriage, in addition to discussing your vision for the relationship. Over the last … [Read more...]
Fatherhood Should Change You
The fatherhood instinct is real. To look upon your offspring and see yourself in their face, in their expressions, in their actions, and ultimately in their interpretation of the world is a daunting thing to come face to face with - every single day. And that's why true fatherhood is done with every interaction a father is lucky enough to have with their children. If you … [Read more...]