Imagine working a full 9 to 5, coming home to prepare dinner, assisting with homework, catering to a spouse and then preparing the family for the exact same routine the next day. You’re probably thinking, “I don’t have to imagine it, that’s my life”.
For most moms and wives, this is the daily reality. Women have been holding down the family forever. It’s what we do and it comes natural for most of us. Even with that being said, we still can experience burnout. That burnout shows up in a variety of ways and can cause destruction if it isn’t managed. When the effort we put in goes without notice and we begin to feel unappreciated, the whole family better beware. No one wants to feel the wrath of a woman who is frustrated, tired and fed up. That woman is no good to anyone, especially herself.
Now it’s completely understandable to desire an occasional thank you or any sign that the family acknowledges what we do every day. However, there are certain actions some wives display that cause more harm than good. Our own happiness and feeling appreciated are at stake when we exhibit the following:
Withholding sex to get even is unfair to both partners. Being legitimately too tired for sex is understandable. Seeking ways to regain energy and asking for help when needed are the right actions to take.
Displaying a constant negative attitude. This is absolutely no way to handle frustration when we’re a grown up in a marriage. We also sometimes use those feelings as an excuse not to do better in our marriage or to snap off every chance we get. The attitude and negativity serves no other purpose than to make everyone miserable, including us. We must be solution focused.
Considering separation or divorce. Unfortunately, it is easier to walk away from a marriage than ever. We can’t allow a situation that’s fixable to completely destroy our union. If it’s not that big of a deal, let’s not make it one. Communicating our needs and working together on a solution has to happen before we even think about calling it quits.
Seeking validation from someone other than our spouse. This is exactly how most affairs begin. We must remember the grass is never as green as it seems on the other side. Real relationships have struggles. The other person may seem more appealing initially, but just wait until their stuff begins to surface. We have the power to change our situation at any time. If our marriage is important, we have to do what’s necessary to keep it thriving.
Again, moms and wives have some of the most challenging responsibilities. With all we have on our plates, who wants to ever feel unappreciated? Communicating our needs, asking for help, and taking an occasional timeout, will actually generate results that benefit the the whole family.
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BMWK, what do you do when you’re feeling unappreciated?