Yes, you will go through trials and tribulations in your marriage. Any time two people live together, conflict will occur. So what are you to do when trouble doesn’t just causally knock on your door but barges in like a SWAT Team?
Simple, you wait.
So you’ve talked to your spouse about the situation, and nothing seems to be happening. No change. It’s as if you never talked about it at all. It’s tempting to leave the marriage, but do not make any decisions yet. Keep your emotions in check. Emotions can cause you to do some things you can’t undo, say some words you can’t unsay and cause some pain that’s not easily healed. Instead, wait.
So you are thinking nothing will change and your marriage is doomed to stay the way it is. Don’t entertain negative thoughts. If the enemy can control your thoughts, he can control your actions. If he can control your actions, he can control your life. Instead, wait.
Do you want to know what you are waiting on? You are waiting on God. If God has told you not to make a decision, then you must wait. If you don’t wait, the Lord will wait. He will wait to bless you. He knows what to do and when to do it but you have to be in position. So don’t move if He doesn’t tell you to because you will waste time and do damage to the relationship.
While you are waiting, don’t consult anyone: not you momma, daddy, granny, friends, pastor, cousins or therapist. NO ONE. When you talk to other people, you hear too many voices and opinions about what you should do. Know that folk will tell you what they would/wouldn’t do if they were you. Well…they aren’t you, so you need to wait to hear from God.
While you are waiting, know that it’s already done. Walk by faith and not by sight. Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. You have your evidence if you see your marriage restored in the spirit. It will manifest in the natural. But you have to wait.
Isaiah chapter 30, verse 18, says, blessed are all those who do what for Him? Wait.
Be quiet and your confidence will be your strength. Wait, rest and trust God.
BMWK family, can you wait on God before you make a crucial decision in your marriage?