Relationships are a type of commodity for this life that will never be fully understood. The beginning of your existence came from someone (Yo Mama), having the courage to push you out, and then another person (The Doctor), having the intelligence to pull you out to prepare you for the life on this planet.
One of the most ironic statements I’ve heard and I know you’ve heard it too is, “I don’t need NO BODY, I can do this all BY MYSELF.”
Maybe you’ve made that statement once or twice or possibly a few seconds before you clicked to read this article.
But I’m here to tell you, that statement is so far from the truth. If you needed HELP to get INTO THIS WORLD, then you surely are going to need HELP to MAKE IT in this WORLD.
This brings me to my point. Just like you need others, others need you. The Bible even states in Philippians chapter 2, verse 4, “ Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.
Yet there is something that keeps trying to isolate you from others—something I have seen over and over that literally ruins relationships. And this is something you must stop doing in order to be the person your friends and family need you to be:
You have to stop taking things personal!
When you take things personal in relationships, it robs the relationship of the opportunity to grow into what it needs to become. If there is at any point in the relationship when you feel you are being personally attacked or sense your feelings being hurt, you must guard your heart in order to be sober toward that person and their actions.
Here are 10 Reasons Why You Can’t Take Things Personal in Relationships.
- The other person’s actions may reflect pressure in his or her life.
- Your perspective on the situation may be misinterpreted.
- You may have unrealistic expectations of the relationship.
- You may have said something to cause them to react the way they did.
- You are not perfect.
- Your friends are not perfect
- The relationship is bigger than you.
- Forgiveness comes AFTER conflict.
- Your friend cannot read your mind.
- You will not agree with everything your relationships do.
Just like a diamond can only grow from pressure applied to it, the same could apply to your relationships. It is in the challenging times that a relationship is given the opportunity to mature. You must program in your mind during times of conflict and trials that this is a moment for growth not destruction. Relationships either positively mature or negatively sink in times of conflict.
Your friends do not need you to assume the worse in them, but rather hope for the best in them.
Just like you need others, others need you.