When I was an early twenty something my views on marriage were slightly skewed. My mom and I would often have relationship centered conversations. She always seemed amused about my views and outlook on marriage. She would often smirk because she recognized how much I had to learn whenever I did find myself involved in a serious relationship. In those talks I would often brag on how little I would tolerate drama. Even once I got married I would proudly proclaim that the first sign of trouble I was out. Especially cheating, fussing and fighting (went without saying). I would often say there would be no talking just me leaving.
What I didn’t consider at the time was how I would feel once I got married. It’s so easy to say what you would and wouldn’t do when you aren’t currently in the situation. What I know now, I wasn’t aware of then. With the exception of fighting, the other situations that can occur in a marriage aren’t necessarily deal-breakers as I once declared they would be. In fact, my mom actually spotted when that change happened in me. I remember her asking, “So now if cheating or fussing were to happen in your marriage are you still going to leave?” I smirked because we both now know it isn’t that simple.
I absolutely love being married. And I don’t picture myself walking away from it too quickly. Even in today’s society where divorce appears to be the first option, it’s not mine. There are multiple reasons as to what keeps a couple married. Several couples stay for the sake of the children, others stay for the love and yet others stay for selfish reasons.
What keeps me married is the love, connection, friendship and the fact that what we have built is solid and feels good. It’s not always easy, but it’s worth it.
Love takes time. It’s the reason we do what we do in our relationship. How we react and respond to one another is based on the love we have. Our love appears in our commitment, sacrifice and the patience we demonstrate towards one another. The love we share keeps me married!
The connection keeps it good! My husband and I can relate to one another. He knows me and I know him. We are able to communicate effectively all because of this connection. It feels so good to be with someone I feel completely comfortable with. The connection keeps me married!
Ahhh the friendship. There is no greater feeling than to share a life with someone I love and who I consider my best friend. The friendship keeps me married!
The overall foundation we’ve built is solid. We’ve built a relationship with trust and honesty along with joy, peace and love. We have created a home that we both look forward to coming back to everyday. Our home is filled with all the things that matter to us. The foundation keeps me married!
Again, there are various reasons as to what keeps a person married. BMWK, what keeps you married?