A few weeks ago I saw this is adorable romantic comedy called This Is 40. It was a good movie, but it was also a wake up call about who my husband and I have evolved into over the course of our marriage. Yes, we accept the good, the bad and the ugly, and without thought, accept the physical and emotional changes that come with time. However, the reality is, we’re not the same people we met when we were younger. I would be lying if I said I didn’t miss some things about my husband or who he was when first got together. And, I’m sure he can say the same thing about me. Here are a few things your spouse won’t admit that they miss about the “younger you”.
You nagged less. I know you probably used your time together back then for “I love you.” and “No. I love YOU more.” Over the years the rose colored glasses seem to come off and sometimes get lost in the shuffle of “being truthful out of love”. Back then, I wasn’t so concerned and preoccupied with the way my husband ate or what his “numbers” were. As his wife and as a nurse, you can’t blame me for being annoyed when he chooses snacks high in saturated fats over the healthy produce options that I provide for the family. I want him to live a long and healthy life! So, no apologies for that part of the “old me”!
You were about 10 to 30 pounds lighter. Whoa…easy! I know this is a touchy subject, but let’s keep it real. As a woman, I truly understand that gravity prevails over time but we still need to discuss this. Ladies, this is tough because if you’ve had kids your body has probably morphed into something a little different than the day you too met. Guys. Your body looks a little different too! After all, they don’t call them love handles for nothing. Your wife is most likely showing how much she loves you by cooking delicious meals for you and your family. I think the easiest thing to do with that is try to regain and much physical health as you can. Not just for outward appearances but for having quality of life and longevity. Try working out together. It’s a great way to spend quality time together and have an accountability partner.
You used to make us your number one priority. I’m sure nowadays, you have good intentions, but it feels like that number one spot belongs to someone or something else. This is completely understandable though – I get it. You sleep together. You wake up beside one another. You eat together. You are together A LOT – but now it seems that you’d rather have a date with the NBA Playoffs and a cold one than be that “Yes-baby-I’ll-snuggle-with-you-right-now-no-matter-what-game-is-on” guy we met and fell in love with. Back then, you were doing everything right in order to impress us…and you did! We miss that.
The good thing about all of this, is that if you can relate to anything I’ve said, you’ve most likely been blessed with being in relationship that has lasted quite some time. Although, I miss a few other things about my younger husband, I wouldn’t change a thing!
BMWK – What are some things you miss about your spouse?