Why is it so inconceivable for us to believe happy marriages do exist? It might have something to do with our thinking a happily married couple doesn’t experience any challenge or stressful moments. In fact, how they handle those stressful moments is usually the difference between them and most other couples. Our definition of what constitutes a happy marriage may vary. In my opinion, a happily married couple is one who loves being married and is always willing to do whatever is necessary to maintain that happiness. The happily married have established certain criteria for their partnership. By adopting specific habits these couples are ensuring the success of their marriage. Below are 5 of those habits:
They communicate the triumphs, defeats and the unpleasant. The best relationships are those where both partners are completely honest as well as receptive to feedback. It’s a marriage where neither is afraid to voice their opinion and both are equally willing to listen, even when they are at fault.
They take responsibility for their actions. In this partnership we won’t find a great deal of finger pointing or shifting blame. We find internal honesty and a couple who isn’t afraid to face their own demons and transform. The transformation is where many fall short. Our spouse deserves the absolute best of us.
They do something different. It’s clear to this couple certain behaviors will not benefit their marriage, so they collectively choose different options. They are able to count the cost of poor decisions and quickly recognize if it isn’t good for one, it can’t happen.
They express love as often as possible; which can be demonstrated in the form of touch, praise and affirmations. They never neglect to show love, especially during the struggles.
They pray and worship together. A marriage can’t strive without a spiritual connection. A couple who prays together stays together. Enough said.
Being “happily married” isn’t an anomaly. Each of us have the potential to experience the exact same joy. It won’t come by chance. When we show up with our everything, it makes the largest impact. Everyone can obtain this same level of peace, love and happiness when we are willing to make the needed sacrifices.
BMWK, what do you think are habits of the happily married?