Have you ever just had a moment of silence in your marriage? And not because you’re in mourning over your marriage. I’m also not speaking of the infuriating silence. Nor am I talking about the shut down silence when you’re so upset with your spouse that you hold your tongue in fear that you might just say something hurtful.
The type of silence I’m speaking of is the intentional silence. Being silent on purpose, and not as a result of anger, offers great benefits and could be surprisingly healing for your marriage. Here are a few reasons why.
- Silence provides an opportunity to make sound decisions on important issues and create solutions. Within the space of silence, we can digest things, like complicated ideas or behaviors.
With silence, we can do a deeper dive into why we feel the way we do about certain situations. We can process our emotions as well, which is sometimes a little harder to do during chaos and confusion and, yes, talking.
- Silence creates a space where you can listen carefully to your spouse’s thoughts and opinions. You’re absolutely not the only one in your relationship with an opinion. Silence can truly be golden, especially when it comes to your spouse. One of the things that most individuals value most in their relationship is being heard.
- Silence minimizes the chance of you saying something you don’t mean. When emotions are rising, it’s easy to say something out of anger. People definitely tend to hold onto the painful words most because words do hurt, contrary to popular belief.
There are so many benefits that come from not reacting immediately and sitting in silence. And in your marriage, you don’t want those type of regrets.
- Silence offers you a chance to reduce stress, according to omtimes.com. The result can make you a healthier, happier spouse all around.
“Silence reduces stress (lowers blood cortisol levels and adrenaline levels), which is the biggest killer in the world… adding 30 minutes of silence a day can change your life.” Isn’t it worth it for this reason alone?
- Silence reminds you that you’re an adult who’s in control. It also builds character and makes you a better partner overall. You don’t always have to respond and react to everything that is said to you or about you. Knowing when to be silent and recognizing the benefits is a strength we should all be looking to build, especially as grown folks.
I mentioned it before, but it’s worth repeating, silence is golden. There are so many healthy things that can occur in silence. Whenever you’re angry, sad or even disappointed, spend a little time in silence before you address the particular concern. Believe me, the outcome will be worth it.
BMWK, How has silence benefited your marriage?