No one knows you better than you. You know your likes and dislikes, your joys and pains and even that quirky behavior you can't even explain sometimes. Do you ever wish others, especially your spouse, knew you that well? They could, I mean if you ever decided to share what it's really like to be you. Many of the difficulties I see couples face are merging their lives and … [Read more...]
Be Quiet: 5 Powerful Reasons to Stop Talking in Your Marriage
Have you ever just had a moment of silence in your marriage? And not because you're in mourning over your marriage. I'm also not speaking of the infuriating silence. Nor am I talking about the shut down silence when you're so upset with your spouse that you hold your tongue in fear that you might just say something hurtful. The type of silence I'm speaking of is the … [Read more...]
Husbands, Your Wife May Be Bored in Your Marriage; Here Are 5 Reasons Why
Believe me, it is not a wife's desire to get bored or lose interest in her spouse. Sometimes, unfortunately, it just happens. I've coached women how to manage this situation when it occurs in their marriage. Sometimes, they're clear on why. Other times, they can't quite pinpoint what it was that caused the disinterest. The truth is, it can be a number of things. … [Read more...]
A Marriage Won’t Survive With “Separation” Thinking
I remember a few months back when a friend shared with me that they were separating from their spouse. It always breaks my heart to hear stories of separation and divorce. But I love the fact that people trust me with their truth, triumphs and their struggles. This person asked what they should be doing during the separation. Because I know separation doesn’t automatically lead … [Read more...]
What Exactly is the “Work” People Say Is Required in Marriage?
How often have you heard the phrase, "marriage takes work"? This saying usually raises concerns to those who are considering marriage. Married folks definitely make it sound a lot harder than it actually is. Those single folks who were already on the fence can easily be persuaded to remain single at the thought of "work". I mean who really wants to work when it comes to … [Read more...]
Who Did You Marry: What to do When Your Spouse Changes
Change is inevitable. It is the one constant we can always count on in life. Our physical appearance changes, our mood, outlook and sometimes how we feel about our relationship. All this change makes it even more challenging to maintain a strong partnership. I see so many couples who arrive at an unhappy place in the relationship because their partner has changed. It's naive … [Read more...]
5 Healthy Rituals For a Better Marriage
Habits are usually tough to break. We’ve displayed them for so long they begin to feel natural and commonplace. Those around us come to expect certain behaviors from us. Habits can be either good or bad; some gross and some giving and generous. We can do our best to break the bad ones, but the good ones we may just want to hold on to. Especially when they benefit someone other … [Read more...]
10 Questions That Will Transform Your Marriage
Ever wonder what, specifically, is needed to actually create and experience the marriage you had in mind? Many of us question why our marriage doesn’t always go according to plan. Plans that include communicating effectively, consistent sacrifice for one another and living a happy ever after, aren’t always realistic. What has become the new normal for quite a few marriages is … [Read more...]