In my years of coaching couples through everything imaginable, I know there is life after infidelity. Hurt can be healed, forgiveness can be given, hearts can be mended, and yes trust can absolutely be earned again. Couples who have survived infidelity know that there is healing after being cheated on. How to Rebuild Trust After Infidelity In This Article: Accept … [Read more...]
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How To Know Whether You Should Stay or Go After Infidelity
Anyone who has previously dealt with infidelity had to make a difficult decision. When your spouse is unfaithful, it can feel like the ultimate betrayal and seem impossible to overcome. If you are wondering how to know whether you should stay or go after infidelity, there is hope and you don’t have to make such a weighty decision alone. Staying together after infidelity and … [Read more...]
How to Avoid Infidelity or an “Entanglement” Situation When You and Your Spouse Need a Break
We don’t often hear infidelity in a marriage described as an “entanglement” but lately, we are all talking about how to avoid infidelity, emotional infidelity and wondering how we can prevent a similar situation from happening to us. We likely don’t want to think about how to deal with infidelity, but the reality is that we are stressed and feel pressures that we have never … [Read more...]
3 Reasons to Trust Your Gut If You Think Your Spouse is Cheating
You can't quite put your finger on it. You're not sure what it is, but something's off. For a while, things between you and your spouse have been off-kilter. There are days where you barely talk and on the days you do, your conversations are as dry as the Sahara. Yeah, something's off. Naturally, you become more observant and certain behaviors have your gut in a knot. You don't … [Read more...]
18 Telling Signs an Emotional Affair Has Your Marriage Twisted
So your spouse may not be having sex with someone else, but they're spending a whole heck of a lot of time “just” talking, emailing and texting! You may ask “does that count as an affair”? Absolutely! An emotional affair, which is a close, intimate, emotional attachment is still considered an affair—an affair of the heart. And there are telling signs that an emotional affair … [Read more...]
Single Ladies: 3 Signs Your Man is “Micro-Cheating”
Micro-cheating is a fairly new buzz word in modern dating. It's used to describe the seemingly harmless, tiny actions that could lead up to full-blown infidelity. Micro-cheating may never lead up to sex, and it isn't exactly an emotional affair, where your partner is turning to someone else for a shoulder to lean on. Single Ladies: 3 Signs Your Man is "Micro-Cheating" In this … [Read more...]
Cheating Spouse: 5 Signs You Could Be Cheating on Your Husband
It has become a well-known fact that women cheat in relationships as often, if not more than men. Though the stigma is more often attributed to the husband, wives shouldn't get comfortable and think they can't be found to step out on their men. A cheating spouse is a cheating spouse no matter the gender. Cheating Spouse: 5 Signs You Could Be Cheating on Your Husband You … [Read more...]
Save My Marriage: How to Come Clean After an Affair
I’m feeling like I’m in a Star Trek episode being transported back to 2002. I remember clearly because that was the year of our engagement...but it was also the year when I cheated. In that moment of betrayal, I recall thinking all types of things, but the biggest reoccurring thought was: Should I tell him or just keep it to myself? Can I save my marriage, even though it hasn't … [Read more...]
It’s Time You Man-Up: Here’s How to Tell Your Wife About Your Affair
So you’ve cheated? Does it mean your marriage is doomed for divorce? Absolutely not! And by the way, I'm speaking from experience! Now don’t get it twisted; it does mean it’s time to “Man-Up” meaning to “toughen up” or in my Spike Lee voice…“Do the right thing!” Tell your wife about your affair. Immediately, I’m reminded of the scripture 1 Corinthians 10:12, "If you think … [Read more...]
How to Forgive Yourself After Your Affair
Dealing with the guilt, shame and self-hatred or the flooding of negative emotions and feeling of self-worthlessness after the occurrence of an extra-marital or non-marital affair is no easy feat. I’m speaking from experience, and this cycle of self-shaming could be as hindering on the marriage/relationship as the affair itself. How to Forgive Yourself After Your … [Read more...]
5 Signs You Are Emotionally Cheating
When two people are in love, they don't flippantly make a decision to cheat. Whether physical or emotional, stepping outside of a relationship to get your needs met is usually a gradual process. Sometimes, it catches the cheating partner unaware because it is a feeling that gradually progresses over the duration of a relationship. But, just as much as there are signs you are … [Read more...]
Spouse Cheated? 30 Questions to Ask Yourself Before Calling It Quits
After infidelity in our relationship and prior to making a decision to call it quits, I thought long and hard about what to do. Notice I did not say the “D” word! If you are like me, you have learned over the years the seeds you plant and nurture will take root and grow. Therefore, I have made it my business to intentionally not allow myself to even … [Read more...]
The Cheater’s Guide to a Lifetime of Faithfulness
If you were raised in a similar environment to me, I bet you know this two sayings, “What is done in the dark will always come to light.” Sound familiar? It's all too familiar to me as God worked it out alright. Now, I know the headline, "A Cheater's Guide to a Lifetime of Faithfulness," might throw you off. But another saying, “God works in mysterious ways,” might help you … [Read more...]
5 Lies You Tell Yourself When You Decide to Cheat
Lies...lies...lies! Your marriage heads for rough waters when you make a decision to go outside of your relationship with your spouse to get a certain need met. You make excuses that seem plausible because you are convinced that need can't be met within your marriage. But, while it's different strokes for different folks, there are five lies you tell yourself when you decide to … [Read more...]
The Only Way To Restore And Rejuvenate Your Marriage After An Affair
How to rebuild trust, you ask? We will tell you how to build that trust again and save your marriage here. In this article: How to Save Your Marriage That's Falling Apart Get Over Trust Issues by Starting at the Beginning The Biggest Struggle in Rebuilding Trust How Long Does It Take to Learn How to Get Over Being Cheated On? How to Rebuild Trust and Save … [Read more...]