Discover the three important elements you need to learn to survive infidelity and betrayal. Saving a marriage after infidelity is possible; you just have to know how to do it. In this article: Betrayal in Love Relationships: It’s Devastating Element 1: Commitment Element 2: Effective Communication Element 3: Be Open and Honest Survive Infidelity | How to … [Read more...]
Part 3: How Our Marriage Became Better After Two Affairs
This article is part of a three-part series to help couples overcome infidelity and experience affair recovery. In this article: The Road to Affair Recovery Stronger Than Ever Build Greater Trust Build Better Communication Build a Stronger Resolve Build a Deeper Romance Build a Sturdier Foundation Affair Recovery | Turning Marriage Around After an … [Read more...]
From Hating To Healing: 4 Phases That Happen After An Affair And How To Get Through Them
Learning how to get over cheating is difficult. You’ve decided to forgive your spouse’s betrayal, but the wounds still run deep. You’ve taken the initial steps to move forward, including uncovering the reasons for why your spouse cheated (which we explored in Part 1 of our three-part infidelity series). But now, you’re wondering what’s next. To learn how to get over an affair, … [Read more...]
Adultery Doesn’t Just Happen; 10 Honest (and Some Ugly) Reasons Why Your Spouse Cheated
Why do people cheat? Chances are when you and your partner entered into your marriage, neither of you intended to break your covenants. So why then does infidelity happen? In this article: How Many Couples Go Through Affairs? Unhappiness Experience and Environment Genetics Sexually Unsatisfied Emotionally Unsatisfied Lost Connection Life Crisis … [Read more...]
Surviving Infidelity: 3 Reasons Your Spouse Can’t Move Past Your Affair
Someone was recently sharing with me that she was in a relationship where her husband cheated, and what she did to help in surviving infidelity. So, she decided to cheat as well and now, they are struggling to get past the situation. Learn more about this woman's story and what exactly happens in a marriage after a spouse cheats. Surviving Infidelity | Get Better, Not Even … [Read more...]
My Fiancé Impregnated Another Woman: Should I Invest More Time in Him?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I came across your email through a blog and I am seeking advice. About three weeks ago, I found out that my fiancé of 10 months (dated for 12) cheated on me and got another woman pregnant. This has been the roughest 3 weeks of my life. He told me the news after she reached out and told him and they supposedly did a paternity test. I don’t even know what to … [Read more...]
How Can I Help My Spouse Heal From My Infidelity?
In part one of this two-part article series, How to Rebuild Marital Trust After an Affair, we zoned in on how the injured spouse could begin to heal for themselves and for their marriage. However, this is a two-part series because marriage takes two. In this second half, we will focus on how the cheating spouse can do their part to help their partner heal from their … [Read more...]
How to Rebuild Marital Trust After an Affair
As a marriage expert, I am asked the question - How do I rebuild my marriage after an affair? To many people, this is a logical question. But it’s the wrong place to start. If you are the victim of infidelity, the pain is all-consuming. Healing is a process and will take longer than you think. To make the healing process work, you want to focus on the decision to rebuild your … [Read more...]
My Boyfriend Turned Into Secret Man: Should I Investigate or Move On?
I am writing you to see if I should continue dating my current guy. We have been together for a few years now and started talking about marriage last year. I was excited about the progress that we were making. Then, all of a sudden, this joker changed up on me. We went from sharing everything including Facebook status and money to sharing nothing. Lately, this joker has … [Read more...]
Is It Disrespectful For a Married Man to Frequent Strip Clubs?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I am living a nightmare in my marriage. I recently learned that my husband has been seeing a stripper on the side. Occasionally, he comes home late, but I do not mind because I know that he goes to dance clubs with his friends sometimes. Recently, he came home around 3 a.m. and was wearing a wristband and smelled like perfume. I asked him where did he … [Read more...]
Affair Repair- 4 Reasons to L.O.V.E. Valentine’s Day!
We are approaching “that” holiday, yeah you know the one: Valentine’s Day! The main day devoted to ALL things romance! No matter where you are in your affair repair, Valentine’s Day is not to be ignored. Societal conditioning tells us that acts of love have to be grand gestures. However, I’d like to lovingly challenge you to rethink Valentine’s Day in respect to … [Read more...]
Can My Cheating, Lying, and Baby-Making Husband Change?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been married for 7 years with 2 girls. My husband cheats and has 2 boys from his affairs. Each time I forgive him and try to get past it. Once caught, he lies unless I show him the evidence; then, he admits it and blames the women for making it easy for him to cheat on me. Sometimes he blames it on his ego. Sometimes he wants favors from the women … [Read more...]
Here’s the One Thing You Must Do If Your Spouse Is Cheating
Have you reached a point in your marriage where you suspect something shady's going on but you're not sure? Now, you simply have to know what’s really going on? Like I always say, “You cannot conquer that which you will not confront.” So, in this article that is part of chapter four (Confront & Conquer) in my book entitled Love After Adultery: The Breakthrough Journey of … [Read more...]
I Am in Love With a Married Man: How Do I Let Go?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, I have been dealing with a married man for a while and I know its wrong, but we just got caught up. I want to walk away and just let it all go, but I didn't know it would be this hard. I fell in love with him and I don't know how it happened. I don't want to do this anymore. I Am in Love with a Married Man, How Do I Let Go? Please help, Ms. … [Read more...]
Should I Disown My Sister For Cheating With My Husband?
Dear Dr. Buckingham, My marriage has been torn apart because of the actions of two people that I love to the moon and back. My husband of 6 years slept with my younger sister. My younger sister came to stay with us after she graduated college. We allowed her to stay with us until she got on her feet. My husband is 42 years old and my sister is 22 years old. You might be … [Read more...]