by Ayanna Black
Are they triplets, wow you have your hands full? This is a question my husband and I are asked every time we venture out with the triplets. Once we respond yes, the questions start rolling”... Are they identical? Did you know you were having triplets? I’ve seen twins but never triplets, did you take fertility drugs? While some questions are welcome most aren’t. We are very much aware that a huge triple stroller is going to attract mounds of attention but people seem to forget that every question that comes to mind isn’t appropriate. Although our triplets are natural, someone who needed help conceiving their kids wouldn’t be pleased to have to offer such personal information. If you happen to see someone with more than one or two kids at a time and want to be nosey here are couple tactful ways to ask:
1) Wow, are they triplets? Congratulations!
The couple will be more comfortable answering questions if they feel like you are genuinely happy for them. Asking things like are they stair steps will only get you looked off in most cases.
2) Okay now does mom or dad have the multiples in their family?
This is way better than asking if mom and dad had fertility treatments. This is to personal of a question to ask someone you aren’t close to. This will give the parents the opinion of telling you their business or not. By the time I’m done sharing that I’m one of 10 sets of twins in my family, I’ve collected enough hugs and happy energy to make it for the next 20 days!
3) Caring for triplets has got to be expensive!
I’ll take this statement any day over, “I know you must be getting assistance”. Of course taking care of triplets is expensive but budgeting is key. Our lifestyle and freedom has been put on hold so we can TRY to afford life.
Moral of the story: Think before you speak. Black folks can do anything!
BMWK family, have you been an offender in any of the circumstances above? Has this ever happened to you?
Ayanna Black
Ayanna is married and the mom of busy triplets. She has a degree in Computer Studies and is the proud owner of ABlackWebDesign.com