By Ayanna Black After watching this week's episode of "The Game" I started thinking about kids and the Internet. In this week's episode, Kelly loses her reality show because her ex-husband has a court order to stop the use of his name. Since she can no longer use his name or likeness on her show she attempts to film other football stars to no avail. Finally out of … [Read more...]
Music That Tells Our Love Story
By Ayanna Black My husband and I have gotten into a routine the last couple of weeks of listening to music on YouTube while putting the kids down to bed at night. So this week's theme has been love songs that tell our love story. We each had to pick a song to tell each other how we felt. Here are two of the many songs we played this week: Tony Terry - With … [Read more...]
He Still Got It!
by Ayanna Black I'd written an article a couple month's back about how our husbands should help boost our confidence after having babies but I think it's also important to do the same for him. We need to let him know he still has a place in our lives as well. After having the triplets I had to pour a lot of time and energy into them and pull my appearance back together. … [Read more...]
New School Or Old School In The Kitchen?
By Ayanna Black As I prepared dinner for my family last week I chuckled to myself as I thought about the first dinner I prepared for my husband. We'd just gotten home from our honeymoon and I was all ready to cook this fabulously healthy meal: baked chicken, strings beans, baked potatoes, corn and rolls. So I washed the dishes and began cooking our dinner. The … [Read more...]
Where She Went Wrong
by Ayanna Black I tend to watch a lot of reality TV and one of the shows is Basketball Wives. I too, like BMWK writer Tara Jefferson, thought that the show would be tendered around the life of a basketball wife. Perhaps how she deals with the kids when he's on the road or how she keeps the marriage tight even though he's gone most times. But of course the premise of the show … [Read more...]
Is it Okay To Befriend The Opposite Sex?
By Ayanna Black I once had a male friend that I was close to. We worked in the same department and begin to hang out outside of work. I'd invited him to a couple functions and considered him to be like a brother. Along the way my husband (boyfriend at the time) became uncomfortable with the friendship. He felt that my friend wanted more from the friendship than … [Read more...]
What Happened To The Village?
by Ayanna Black Back in the day the old adage "it takes a village to raise a child" was in effect. There was a time when every child respected every adult. If a child was acting up in the streets it would be taken care of (so I've heard) and that child would be brought to their parent to then be reprimanded again. If a family didn't have a meal and your neighbor did, … [Read more...]
Is Our Educational System Setup To Fail Our Children?
by Ayanna Black I recently felt like I was back in school preparing to take my final exam to get into kindergarten. The triplets are now at the age where it's time to start thinking about preschool and I'm totally stressed about it. It's not the anxiety of letting them go but the pressure I was getting for them to perform. Because the triplets were very premature, they go … [Read more...]
Should Obey Be In Your Marriage Vows?
by Ayanna Black You would think that I'd lost my hearing as long as it took me to respond to the pastor after he said "will you obey"..." Honestly, I didn't mean to pause that long but for that split second I had to think about what I was agreeing too. At that moment I was thinking, do I have to do what he says? Is he going to make the right decision for me to … [Read more...]
Surviving Church Hurt as a Family
by Ayanna Black Church hurt is one of the most confusing and hurtful things a person can go through. One has a mindset that hurt shouldn't be present in the church. That mindset is correct in a perfect world but as we know the devil is always searching to and fro seeking whom he can devour. (A paraphrase of 1 Peter 5: 8) Fortunately my family experienced church hurt. I … [Read more...]
Dr. Madear vs. Dr. MD
By Ayanna Black Last night I found myself in Walgreens searching for medicine that would cure my son's crazy cough. Typically, I'd call my mom and ask what she thought I should give him. I knew she'd likely give me an old school "Madear" remedy but this time I decided to try to figure it out myself. I seem to always be on the fence when it comes to Madear remedies. My … [Read more...]
You Still Got It! (Building Up Your Wife’s Confidence After The Baby)
By Ayanna Black Jamie Foxx definitely hit the mark with that song! As I look at pictures of myself before the triplets, I remember not having to wear body shapes or thinking if that outfit will flatter my new belly. Lots of people tell me I don't look like I have triplets. However, as many times as I hear it from other people, it takes on a new meaning when I hear it from … [Read more...]
Black Folks Do Have Triplets!
by Ayanna Black Are they triplets, wow you have your hands full? This is a question my husband and I are asked every time we venture out with the triplets. Once we respond yes, the questions start rolling"... Are they identical? Did you know you were having triplets? I've seen twins but never triplets, did you take fertility drugs? While some questions are … [Read more...]