by Tara Pringle Jefferson
In the comments of one out of every three articles I write, I get someone alleging that married people take things too seriously and that “y’all think y’all are better than single folks.”
I could see why single people think married people are too snotty for their own good. After all, every married person was single once upon a time and at some point, they decided that it wasn’t good enough anymore. They needed to take that next step. They weren’t satisfied being introduced as “my girlfriend” or “my boyfriend.”
I do not think I am better than any one of my single friends. Not at all. I just look at the satisfaction I get from my marriage and it is enough for me. As long as they are happy in respectful, emotionally appropriate relationships, I don’t need to be concerned with it. Get married or don’t. I know what works for me.
I do think marriage is fantastic. There’s nothing I would rather be than my husband’s wife. I do take that role seriously. I’ve invested a lot of time, love, and energy into the marriage of Mr. and Mrs. Jefferson and I’ll be damned if I have it crumble in some way. Uh-uh. No way.
So some of my posts, decrying the term “wifey” and asking if married people should go to the club, err on the side of being too conservative. Many married people argee with me.
It’s easy to be serious when you’ve taken that step of having a legally binding, lifelong commitment define most of who you are. This is serious business. But just because I’m serious about my relationship, it doesn’t mean that non-married folks are beneath me. Y’all do your thing and I’ll do mine. Okay?
Do married people think they’re better than single people? Do you? Be honest. Speak your piece in the comments.
Tara Pringle Jefferson is a freelance writer living in Ohio with her husband and two children. Visit her blog, www.theyoungmommylife.com, to read more of her observations about life, motherhood and love.