Stress can be a killer; we already know that. People do crazy things when under too much stress. The body and emotions react in strange ways we are not used to. If not handled, stress not only strains our personal life, but also causes our marriages to suffer. There is not much that goes on in our personal life that doesn’t have an effect on our marriages.
We are faced with stressors every day, some big, some small. Everything from aging parents, children with special needs, finances, and work can take a toll on our physical and mental sharpness. Stress can move us forward and draw husband and wife closer together as you work together to handle any situation or it can tear you apart.
Let stress draw you closer together. Like a rubber band – take the stress and stretching in stride and snap right back. A rubber band can actually teach us a few things on being stretched and pulled in different directions while still keeping it together. Take a look at these lessons:
- Stretching causes tension. Like a rubber band the tension can be used for a positive purpose. When a rubber band is stretched and twisted it can bind things together and hold them together with strength and security.
- A band of security. A rubber band is round. Like an infinite circle without beginning or end. Let your relationship resemble this in stressful times. Keep your circle unbroken by staying close together, being open and honest with one another and supporting each other where support is needed.
- Have some bounce back. Exercise your bounce back muscle. The only way to strengthen a muscle is to use it. Just like that rubber band – when stretched and stressed, bounce back, regain your posture and continue to be strong.
Don’t let stress kill your marriage. You kill the stress.
Stress will come. Know the signs and get help when needed. Here are a few signs to look out for:
- Unusual emotional swings.
- Uncharacteristic crying.
- Feeling overwhelmed.
- Feeling withdrawn, depressed, or alone.
- Low energy.
- Consistent worrying.
- Changes in appetite – not eating enough, over eating, eating unhealthy.
Throughout the years, I have had opportunity to experience most of these symptoms. So, I am no MD, just a woman who has gone through some things and come out on the other side. Do some research for yourself, stress does not have to beat you or your marriage. It can be a time of challenge but also a time of growth. Don’t let stress kill your marriage. You kill the stress.