For many men there can be a level of anxiety that always is present when it comes to leading our family. That anxiety typically revolves around either not having a father as a role model or not having a good role model to pattern themselves around. So how does a man lead what he has never seen before?
Tough question, and I don’t know that anyone can really stand as an expert on this one. That is why the Bible is so significant in the life of a husband. Here are a few suggestions on being a spiritual leader in your home:
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- Pray with/for your kids. Job made offerings for his kids, just in case they sinned.
- Pray with/for your wife. Isaac prayed 20 years for his wife.
- Let your family see you reading the Bible, often.
- Take your wife away as often as possible.
- Read to your family.
- Make decisions based on biblical reason, not your own.
- Don’t rule by the letter of Scripture, but by the law of love
- Know Scripture for yourself.
- Love intentionally. Schedule time for each child and your wife.
- Lead in family Bible Study. Set the time, insist everyone is present and learn together as a family.
- Lead with humility. Proverbs 15:2
- Admit mistakes, without fear of losing your strength.
- Spend personal time with God.
- Spend time being silly with your kids
- Let your wife vent. She may find it romantic.
- Stay fit.
- Stay spontaneous.
- Always choose family over career. Always! Read what happened to Potiphar in Genesis 39.
- Show compassion more than you show an iron fist.
- Hold family meetings.
- Calm your wife’s fears.
- Find 3 Men of the Bible to learn how to be a leader or father from. I like Jesus, Joseph, and Nehemiah.
- Really listen to and consider your wife’s wisdom when making a decision.
- Teach your kids what you know and learn with them what you don’t know.
- Speak positivity into your children early and often. You can do it. You will be a good husband/wife.
- Be honest about feelings and emotions. I’m afraid does not equal I’m not a man.
- Don’t quote the Bible, live it.
- Encourage your wife’s dreams.
- Set goals with and for each family member and then coach them to the finish line.
- Find other guys to talk to. No one is perfect, each friend has a different strength.
- Cherish your wife.
- Maintain the mind of Christ while interacting with your family. I Corinthians 2:10-14.
Being a leader our family is always a challenge but as we continue to grow spiritually, God will continue to grow us a husbands and fathers.
BMWK — What are some ways you show that you are the spiritual leader for your family?
