Months or maybe even years in and you are still in a state of marital bliss. You’ve finally found your groove a, groove in which “me” was replaced by “we” and everything was shared including the bed, the bathroom, and your spouse’s bowl of ice cream should you be so inclined. You got comfortable and caught up in the day to day responsibilities; those that come with having a family and being a responsible contributing member of society. Many things, like getting dressed (up), are now done out of necessity. The end result — possibly an inability to button your jeans without lying on the bed or a belly that resembles a pregnant woman only you’re not pregnant your wife is!
It is a story heard time and time again. People get married and they gain weight or they don’t make the effort to keep up their appearance like they did when they were dating. While there are many theories as to why it happens there are many things we can do to put a stop to it.
An Ebony article explores the notion of letting go of oneself and gives an account of a man who at the store commented on the fact that his wife doesn’t work out. The writer. Mrs. Rocque, also shares that she had “fallen off” when it came to her own appearance. Something her husband even pointed out.
But apparently, I should care, because I’m married and appearance is important for the spice of a relationship. It’s not like I didn’t know this. I just didn’t really realize I was falling off, and this is why I think it happens to so many people.
Mrs. Rocque notes that “visuals are part of keeping the spice in a relationship.” So the question is what do you do to get the flavor back when you’ve somehow let yourself go? For more on this visit Ebony.
BMWK — Have you let yourself go since getting married? How do you plan to change that? How can you support a spouse who has done the same?