We’ve been seeing some creative proposals on YouTube lately, and we had the Twitterverse all abuzz after Jim Jones’ lackluster (hey, I call it like I see it) proposal to Chrissy on Love & Hip Hop.
It got me thinking about what a proposal really means, what it stands for. Is it simply a great story to tell your friends, kids and grandkids? Is it supposed to be a big show, or can an understated proposal say just as much about the love the two of you share?
My parents got engaged after my dad came over my mom’s apartment, flopped on the bed and said, “Hey, let’s get married.” Now almost 30 years later, she still rolls her eyes when she tells the story.
My husband proposed to me after work one March evening, then sat down to watch the Lakers game about 10 seconds after I said, “Yes.” Does that mean anything in the long run? I don’t think so.
In an ideal world, I’m sure most of us would love for our proposal story to be the fairy tale.
“Oh, he rented out the whole restaurant and filled it with flowers.”
“He flew my mom in from out of town!”
“He made me a four-course dinner and paid Maxwell””yes, Maxwell“”to serenade us afterward.”
“He made a full-length feature film about what our life would be like together!” (Just kidding on this one.)
But really, if a man decides he wants to spend the rest of his life with you (or if a woman wants to propose to her man), isn’t that enough? Do we need the 5-carat ring, the elaborate proposal, the big wedding? Isn’t the love…enough?
Share your two cents (and your proposal story!) in the comments.