My marriage would be a total failure without God. Matter of fact, my life would be a mess too. That’s why when someone asks why I write so much about God when I am supposed to be writing about marriage, I reply:
If it were not for God, I wouldn’t be married.
May I be real?
Without God, I’d probably curse my husband and child everyday.
Without God, I’d let small things turn into huge arguments.
Without God, I’d stress about bills, payday, and student loans.
Without God, I’d withhold sex and intimacy just because I’m tired or mad.
Without God, I’d nitpick and criticize just because.
Without God, I’d focus on my goals and my needs more than my family’s.
Without God, I’d stop communicating for days, even weeks, out of retaliation.
Without God, I’d be slow to forgive and quick to blame.
Without God, very few people would want to marry me.
Other the other hand,
With God, I control my tongue and season my words with grace.
With God, I give thanks for what I do have and for the man God blessed me with.
With God, I don’t stress so much about bills and payday because I know God will provide.
With God, I try harder to extend my body and my heart to my husband even when I’m tired.
With God, my dreams become “our dreams” and my plans become “God’s plans.”
With God, I lose sense of time when having an intimate conversation with my husband.
With God, we are more powerful, more loving, more trusting, more ONE than we are without God.
With God, small things are just that. . . small things, because my God is bigger than anything.
I am not too proud to admit that without a power bigger and wiser than us, my husband and I would be lost. . . if not divorced. So, not only do I reference God in my writing, but I also reverence Him in my life. My marriage isn’t perfect, but the God I serve is. And, as long as we keep Him first, we will be just fine.
BMWK family, what’s the impact of your faith in your marriage?
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