[tps_header]As a relationship life coach, I often have to encourage couples to identify meaningful ways to maintain their intimate connection. To keep the romantic flame burning bright, committed couples should prioritize spending quality time together daily. Quality time allows you to connect emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually. It is important to make a concerted effort to spend private time together as it allows couples to enhance their romantic relationship and deepen their friendship. If you’re not sure where to start, below are seven ways to maintain a connection with your mate.
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Prayer Time
Praying together is one of the most intimate acts a couple can share. My mate and I pray together each morning before we rise. It allows us to start the day with humility and gratitude. It reminds us to extend grace and love to each other and to everyone around us. This deeply personal communion with God centers us and allows us to pray for ourselves, each other and our loved ones. Praying together allows couples to seek clarity and guidance as a team Praying together is way for couples to connect spiritually.
Couples Coffee Chat
Eating with your family each night is a way to catch up and share information about your day. I recommend that couples not only eat dinner with the family each night but plan at least a few times a week to eat breakfast or at least have a cup of coffee alone together in the morning. Plug into each other before you plug into the morning news, radio shows, social media or needy kids. This couples-only coffee chat helps set the tone for the day, so coordinate schedules and ensure that you both are in sync. Share the most important meal of the day with your mate, then go out and conquer the world.
Goodbye Kiss
We tend to forget the small miracle that occurs every day in our lives. Leaving home each morning and returning safely each night is nothing short of a miracle. We take this miracle for granted, causing us to leave home angry without saying I love you and without giving our mate a passionate kiss and a warm embrace. Couples must realize that life can abruptly change in an instant. Couples must make it a rule to never leave home without telling and showing their mate how much they really love them; and follow up with a loving embrace, a kiss and kind word when they return home. After all, you are in charge of creating the type of relationship you want. So create one that begins and ends each day with love.
Date Night
This goes without saying: every couple should have a weekly date night. Let me make myself clear here. Date night does not include the kids, your friends, work, frequent phone interruptions or constant social media distractions. Date night is time couples plan to spend together doing something they enjoy doing. This can be a dinner date, a movie, bowling or camping in the back yard and gazing up at the stars. Couples should alternate weekly who is in charge of planning the date. Don’t make the mistake of making date night a competition by seeing who can outspend each other. The star of date night is not the amount of money spent or how grandiose the plans are but quality time. Date night ensures that couples get special alone time to reconnect.
Romantic Surprises
Surprise your mates with expressions of love that make them feel special. Send them a greeting card in the mail. Send flowers to their office—ladies men love flowers, too. Call them and tell them to be ready at 8 p.m., and send a car to pick them up for a surprise date night. Write your mate a love letter, and read it to them during your morning coffee chat. Send them a text, telling them what you love about them. Draw them a bath, and wash them from head to toe. Give your mate a full body massage. Plan a scavenger hunt with clues that reveal the most memorable moments in your relationship. Every couple needs to do things that continuously spark the romance flame, or it will burn out.
Dynamic Duo
Couples should seek new interests to explore together. You both may have hobbies that you do together like hiking or fishing. I invite you to explore unchartered territory and look for new ways to spend time together that’s out of the norm. Try salsa dancing, skydiving, whitewater rafting, painting, a co-ed sports league or international cooking lessons together. Pick a do-it-yourself home improvement project and beautify your home together. Get out of your norm and sample what life has to offer together.
Health and Wellness
The fast-pace of life has a way of getting in the way of health and wellness if you’re not careful. Since you’ve made the commitment to stay together, you may as well make the investment to be healthy together. Talk about ways to create a healthy lifestyle either with improving your diet, exercising or a combination of both. Maintaining good health will allow you to have a more active lifestyle, be more adventurous in the bedroom and be a good role model for the kids. Exercising and preparing food together can be a way of bringing the family together.
The goal of every couple is to have a happily ever after. Once the rose-colored shades come off, the relationship becomes a little less fantasy and a lot more reality. Reality can be fun, but there has to be a consistent, concerted effort to prioritize your mate and the relationship. If you’re planning to ride off into the sunset together, do so holding hands, smiling and just as in love as the first day you said, “I do.”
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