A common belief is that men are visual creatures. More so than women, they are enticed by what they see. I don’t know if this stereotype has been scientifically proven, making it a fact. What I do know from experience and observation is that men like to look. That’s all the more reason for wives to give their husband’s something to look at.
So, here’s the question: Why do some women hide themselves in marriage?
They get dressed in the closet.
They undress in the dark.
They wrap up immediately after a shower.
They mask their bodies in sweats and t-shirts.
The more they cover themselves the less their husbands have to look at and to admire.
My husband told me early in our marriage he liked to look at me and expected to do so: “If I married you, then I have a right to look at you, when I want and how much I want.”
Only a foolish woman would argue with that. And, if she did, she would be going against what God states explicitly about our bodies in marriage: “The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife” (1 Corinthians 7:4). What this scripture means is that marriage is about give and take, and part of what we give is our body to our spouse. As wives, we give our husbands the visual stimuli they need to address their sense of sight. When a man has a wife, there is no need for peep shows, strip clubs, or other visual stimuli beyond the wife’s body.
So, yes, it is my responsibility to give my husband something to look at and fantasize about. . . and that something or someone is ME. A husband who desires to look at his wife, whether dressing or undressing, lounging on the sofa, or doing housework in his line of sight, is a husband who appreciates what he has.
To look says I like, I want, I love. Isn’t that a blessing?
The challenge, then, for us wives is this: as our bodies change with time and child birth, we must maintain a positive body image and get free from whatever makes us hide from the one we should be totally free with. If our men desire to see us – all of us – then we should desire to let him look.
Okay ladies, what’s your take on men needing visual stimuli? What’s the wife’s role in this?