Marriage can be one of the greatest joys of your life. When done well, coming home each day brings a smile to your face. That being said, most married folks hit upon rocky times, a point where you don’t see eye to eye and getting along is a challenge. It’s normal to have disagreements. It’s not normal to stay there, in a place of discontent with one another.
If the three statements below fit you well, it’s time to seek out wise counsel.
When the atmosphere is constantly charged with anger it’s time to seek counsel.
You hate coming home
Do you find yourself working late on purpose to avoid going home? Hanging out with friends or at a relative’s house to avoid your own house? A feeling of doom comes over you when it’s time to go home? – It’s time to seek wise counsel.
Arguments end with no resolve
Every couple has disagreements. It’s not strange. What is strange is when disagreements become arguments. Arguments become fights and fights become ammunition to use against one another during the next bout.
Disagreements begin and they end. At some point you come into agreement or you agree to disagree and move on. If arguments seem to have no beginning and no end –It’s time to seek wise counsel.
You are ready to leave home or put your mate out, one or the other
When you are ready to pack your bags and leave home, it’s time to seek wise counsel. When you are ready to throw your mate’s clothes out on the curb and change the locks; it’s time to seek wise counsel. Your home should be a safe haven for your family, a place of peace and joy. When the atmosphere is constantly charged with anger – It’s time to seek wise counsel.
Note I used the phrase wise counsel several times. This means talk to someone who can speak life into your marriage. Someone both you and your mate respect.
This person needs to be skilled to speak into your marriage relationship. Not everyone will meet this criteria. Be picky. Seek out a counselor or marriage mentor who can mediate and help you resolve your challenges. This person should have a heart for marriage and the wisdom to impart knowledge into your lives.
All hope is not lost until you give up hope. Hold on to hope and get the help you need.
BMWK, what are some other signs that you need marriage counseling?