Summer is the time for vacations. It’s a great time of year for family vacations and couples’ only getaways. Everyone needs a break from their daily routine but inquiring minds want to know is it okay to take a vacation without your spouse and kids? Well…YES it is!
You’re probably thinking that doesn’t sound like a good idea or it could lead to problems in my marriage/relationship. Relationship experts actually suggest that once in a while it’s okay to take (what they call) separate vacations. They’re more commonly known as girlfriend getaways and guys weekends (lol).
Here are some of the reasons why you should consider a separate vacation:
• Absence makes the heart grow fonder. It’s an old saying but oh so true. When one parent/your spouse is gone everyone misses you and is overjoyed when you return. Make them miss you a little (lol).
• Special bonding time with your children. When one spouse goes on a weekend getaway without the family, it’s a perfect time for the other spouse to bond with the kids. You know…it’s time to do the things with the kids that the other parent won’t allow. (lol)
• You may need a breather from everything. Sometimes when one spouse takes on a few more responsibilities they can become overwhelmed and just plain worn out. A getaway with the girls/guys or favorite cousins is a great way to take a breather and recharge.
• No vacation compromising. On vacations with your family or kid-free vacations, you often have to compromise on what activities you want to participate in and even where you want to vacation. Separate vacations are the perfect opportunity to do exactly what you want. You may want a spa getaway mixed with some fabulous shopping. Grab your BFF and hit the road for a few days.
• Reconnect with old friends and family members. Remember that sorority sister, frat brother or cousin that’s more like a sister/brother that you keep missing at reunions? A separate vacation is a great way to reunite, catch up on each other’s lives and just have some fun.
Even though it’s a good idea to take separate vacations, experts caution that you should not make it a habit/too frequently and if you’re already having problems in your marriage/relationship, a “separate vacation” is not a good idea. Separate vacations should never replace vacations with your spouse or family.
BMWK – do you ever go on vacation without your spouse?